What my Little Sister taught me about life!
Yeah! You heard that right. I am in my late twenties and quite a sane person. Taking advice is not in my blood. I give it!! For someone who is sincere, hardworking, but never quite living the life. The younger one seems to have it all. In her early twenties, she is Confident, Fun, happy, and quite living the Life she wants! The last line makes all the difference though.
There’s never a dull moment in her day. What the hell does she do, that makes her so popular at work or social gatherings or even in her own eyes. Quite impressed, I ask the Extrovert and like a real rock star she says it on my face.
She goes in length to tell me specific details as to why I always end up being the victim and what I can do in my work and life on a whole to change it. Woahh!!! she’s my little sister after all, how is she supposed to know all this? The thought has not even passed me and there she begins —
The Good girl image: Stop being that good girl always. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes and think what’s good for you. If something is troubling you, say it there and then. If people are horrible to you, don’t shut up, face it and give it back. Don’t run away, some bruises can scar you for life. Afraid of what will people think? There are 7.3 billion people in the world and you are worried about a few. duh!
Don’t bring the “work” home: If you have some important stuff at office wait up finish and leave. If you can do it the next day, that’s fine too, but don’t let the anxiety bother you once you are at home. If work is playing a spoilsport making you cranky, irritated or hangry all the time. It will affect your relationships with everyone. Over the time, it will rot. Get a grip and leave the “Work”, where it needs to be.
The boss will judge you with the first impression he has of you: It takes years to build a good reputation and 1 mistake to ruin it all. Meaning to say, just go on with your work without the worry about what the boss will think of you. However hard you try each day and how much ever shit you take for that project you needed to complete, the ratings will always depend on his impression of you and never the actual work. So don’t think twice to leave early for a family reunion.
Never ask the Boss for a Leave, inform Him: Apprehensive to ask about leave/vacation to your boss? Suffering anxiety in the process and devising plans how to trick him into believing that your grandmother’s dead or something! That’s excess burden on the brain plus you have to lie & live in the fear that someone might find out. Next time try informing him instead. Taking permission all the damn time can make him believe that you are giving him the control of your life. Don’t ever do that. Stand up for yourself and get what you deserve.
Stop pleasing people: Whether it’s your office, home or your friends. You cannot fake it for long. And you cannot please everyone every time. Just be yourself and do what you think is right. If it means that you look bad, so be it. Do what’s important to you and honor your perspective. Sometimes the person you are pleasing isn’t even bothered about what you think. Neither there is a guarantee that he/she will stand by you in your worst times. So why bother? Be yourself.
Say that on the FACE: If it’s a NO, say it. Don’t say a yes and then do it out of fear of losing that person. If someone loves you, he/she will understand your reasons. If not, then you should not mind or care. If you are being treated badly, bullied or just poked fun at repeatedly. Never feel small or unhappy. Have the courage to say it on the Face. And once you do that, such people will always think twice before even talking to you.
How you reinforce people to treat you is upto YOU: Helpless, under-confident, easily fooled, punching pad, pleaser, too polite for bullies and letting go of what you deserve every single time. Yeah! Right in the gut.
My little sister sure knows how to get my attention by mentioning all my qualities I must say. People will exactly identify those traits and treat you the same. They may even take undue advantage of the same and put it against you. It’s YOU all the way, reinforcing them to believe how you want to be treated. If you believe, act and present yourself as confident, fun, fearless, and one who doesn’t give in to bullshit happening to you. No one would dare mess up!
Too Serious? Get a life!! Life is a rollercoaster, sometimes you go up and other times you go down. Don’t take criticism too seriously. Learn the lessons and let go. Never have less fun coz you are grown up now or for that matter strain yourself to be a good mother, daughter or a husband. Be what you are and how to feel today.
Break free from shackles of societal norms, taking small things too seriously or about someone who said nasty things. Let go and be free. Get a life, other things will fall into place. Watch the sunrise at least once a year, put a lot of marshmallows in your hot chocolate, lie on your back and look at the stars, never buy a coffee table you can’t put your feet on, never pass up a chance to jump on a trampoline. Never overlook life’s small joys while searching for the big ones.
“Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems!”-H. Jackson Brown Jr
Wow! That was a blow. It pinched me at the right places. Have I been doing it wrong the whole time?? How can she see all these things and not me? It’s said that sometimes people who love you can see you in a different light, make you aware of it and in turn make you even more lighter. Hence, I have decided to take this advice from my little sister and see if it makes any difference.
IT WILL, she says- right on my FACE!!!
