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4 Relationship Beliefs I Had To Unlearn To Find (And Keep) Love
Sometimes, we need to challenge what we think we know about love to truly experience it
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For a long time, I didn’t realize how much the things I believed about love were shaping the way I experienced it.
The way I held on too tightly or let go too soon. The way I mistook chaos for passion or silence for safety. The way I kept finding myself in the same patterns, wondering why nothing ever seemed to change.
It took me a long time to understand that love wasn’t the problem — what I believed about love was.
Fast forward to now, and I’m in a seven-year relationship with someone who makes me feel incredibly safe, seen, and loved every single day. But to get here, I had to unlearn a lot — old beliefs, patterns, and ways of thinking that I didn’t even realize were holding me back. And I’m still unlearning, because love isn’t a one-time lesson.
Most of us absorb beliefs about love without even realizing it — beliefs we inherit from family, culture, or past experiences. These beliefs look so real, so true, that…
