5 Clear Signs You Have A Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
#1 You can’t effectively communicate your needs — you either blow up or shut off completely.
The fearful-avoidant attachment is often forgotten. People talk about the anxious attachment, the secure attachment, the avoidant attachment… Yet they forget the most complicated attachment of them all.
Fearful avoidant attachment develops in children when caregivers exhibit contrasting and inconsistent behavior. For example, they might be highly loving at times, but on other occasions, they might be distant or reactive.
This was my situation. As a child, I lived in a very unpredictable and chaotic environment where I never knew if I could rely on my parents to meet my emotional needs. This led me to absorb unhealthy relationship ideas based on what I was witnessing: I believed relationships were supposed to be unbalanced, uncertain, and overall chaotic.
If you have a fearful-avoidant attachment style, you probably relate to my experience — and navigating relationships can be particularly difficult for you.
