We Need To Feel It To Heal It, But Are We Really Feeling It?
We can’t think our way through pain
Healing demands something from us: a vulnerability so deep that it shakes the very foundations of who we think we are.
It requires us to open up to the darkest corners of ourselves, to sit with the emotions we’ve spent years, maybe even lifetimes, trying to avoid. It calls for us to let go of the armor we’ve spent so much time crafting, the one that keeps us safe, or at least feels like it does.
But there are traps along the way — subtle ways we trick ourselves into thinking we’re healing, when in reality, we’re avoiding the hardest part.
I know this well, because I, too, have often fallen into one of those traps: overanalyzing my emotions instead of feeling them.
When pain arises, my first instinct is to dissect it — to analyze the root cause, to trace it back to the source, to break it down. On one hand, this has served me well. It has given me the gift of clarity, of understanding why I react the way I do, why certain patterns repeat themselves, and how my past has shaped the person I am today. It’s helped me peel back the layers of my trauma and conditioning, revealing truths I might never have seen otherwise.
