You Know What You Want. You’re Just Afraid of Admitting It to Yourself

Uncertainty is not real. Fear is

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There’s a moment — maybe you’ve felt it too — when you sit with yourself long enough, all the noise quiets down, and something underneath starts to speak. Not loudly. Not urgently. But clearly.

That’s the part of you that already knows.

We tell ourselves we’re confused. Lost. Torn. And sometimes, maybe, we are. But more often than not, when I’ve said “I don’t know what to do,” what I’ve actually meant is: I do know. I’m just scared.

Scared of what will happen if I choose what I really want.
Scared of what people might think.
Scared that maybe I’m not good enough, not ready enough, not strong enough to follow through.

Every time in my life when I felt tangled in uncertainty — whether it was about a relationship, a job, a city, a version of myself I wanted to grow into — if I’m being brutally honest, I did know what I wanted. I just didn’t want to face what that knowing would demand of me.

Because clarity doesn’t always come with comfort. Sometimes, clarity is the scariest thing in the world.

Wanting something — really wanting it — means we have something to lose. It…