You Want Love, But Do You Feel Worthy of Receiving It?

Let’s talk about unworthiness, and how it leads us to self-sabotage

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If you had asked me ten years ago if I wanted to find love, I would have said yes without hesitation. I genuinely believed I did. I longed for connection, for someone who would see me, choose me, and stay.

But looking back, my actions were telling a very different story — one I wasn’t even aware I was writing.

The truth was, I was caught in a pattern I couldn’t see. I told myself I was ready for something real, but deep down, I kept gravitating toward the very things that kept it just out of reach. And I played my part in the dysfunction, mistaking inconsistency for passion, emotional unavailability for mystery, and chaos for connection.

And when love did show up — steady, secure, and real — I couldn’t recognize it for what it was. It felt deeply unfamiliar and uncomfortable, like trying to speak a language I had never learned. So… I ran. Sometimes I ran toward people who reinforced my deepest fears of unworthiness, chasing their approval, hoping I could prove myself lovable. Other…