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The Cure is you

What are You Responsible for

Not Everything is for You to Shoulder……

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Today, you read about how you are responsible for just about everything happening around you. The climate, pollution, infant deaths, domestic abuse, violence, poverty and so on.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to shrug off something that may hold me responsible, but wait, let’s get this straight.

You tend to get so entangled in this wide net of responsibility that it can destroy you.

Your children do not perform as well as you expect — you are angry with yourself.

Your parents are living in a home for senior citizens — you feel guilty.

Your boss holds you accountable for a project that you are not directly involved in — you sulk.

Your mother’s unhappiness becomes yours.

This list can be endless.

Let’s consider almost all happenings as acts of nature’s fancy. When a friend of yours is struck by lightning, you ask ‘why should it be him/her’? Another, who is a fitness freak is suddenly afflicted with an incurable disease — and you break down in sympathy. Of course, as friends and fellow human beings you can feel for another person — but do not allow life to come to a standstill.

These incidents may be merely nature’s games!

Similarly, there are so many things going on around and you do not have to sink with a great sense of guilt and remorse.

Khalil Gibran, the Prophet has rightly said (about children),

………They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

So why do you take responsibility for all occurrences in your children’s lives?

Why do you think their failures reflect on your values of life?

Here is some food for thought:

When a batsman hits sixes after sixes and the hat-trick drives his/her team to victory, he/she does not attribute success to the wind, the light, the bowler’s blunders, or the bat, but takes complete responsibility — ‘I’ did it — the magnified ‘I’ does it all.

What really matters is ‘YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO YOURSELF’. When you realize that you are responsible for yourself, it actually jolts you. It’s huge. It is an amazing feeling when you are experiencing a sensation of awakening.

You realize what you are worth — there are certain things you can do, which others may not be capable of. This realization can make you responsible in a way that your talent and gift be utilized in the right possible way.

This is what spiritual responsibility is.

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Here is where your sense of spiritual responsibility should be nurtured. Remember this is a continuing process. You may have many more surprising experiences in life, I am not talking of awakening like the Buddha, but an awakening that makes you realize your significance in this wide world and how you could put your worth to good use.

As you progress you find that your uncertainties fade away and you begin to enjoy the sense of responsibility that presents itself before you. This is responsibility — spiritual responsibility. What you can offer to the world with your gift.

Rachel Wooten — “The spiritual development of a single individual has the power to transform everyone around them.”

For example, as healing practitioners, you can help those in need of healing, some have the gift of calming people with just their presence — be there when you are needed. There is a Chinese belief that spirituality of responsibility is ‘concern for fellow human beings and the need to develop a sensitivity to one another’. It is about contributing to accord and association.

So, try to understand the difference between ‘misleading or deceptive responsibility’ and ‘genuine responsibility’ at the conscious level. Let me explain this with an example.

As a daughter taking care of my mother, who is 90, all on my own, with my siblings contributing zilch, I felt complete depletion of energy as she began demanding more from me each day. I then realized what my responsibility towards her is at a conscious level and that I am stretching too far to comply to her demands. I made changes.

Providing good food, shelter, care, and love was my responsibility, beyond that, she had to be mindful that she can take care of herself — when I made this modification in life, I felt more peace.

So, understand the difference between the responsibility that really is for you to shoulder and that which is not. That’s where you evolve in your spiritual journey.

Cheers to a lighter and happier you!



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