Dreaming About an Ex? An Expert Explores 20 Reasons Why

“Look at the dream as a conversation with yourself”

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By Candice Jalili

Waking up from a dream about an ex can be jarring. But, according to professional dream analyst and author Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, “Whatever’s going on in the dream is going to reflect not necessarily [what’s going on] between you and your ex, but what’s going on with you.” Read along as Loewenberg explains possible meanings behind various dreams about an ex, and how they might relate to what’s happening in your life right now.

1. If you dreamed you were falling for your first love all over again…
“This can be someone who was in your life 30, 40, or 50 years ago, but you still find yourself dreaming about this person. The ex, at this point, is no longer playing themselves in the dream — instead, they kind of embody what first love feels like: the excitement, the passion, the desire, being desired, always wanting to be together, bubbles, that wonderful feeling.”

Because your first love represents this feeling in your psyche, “they will tend to show up in your dreams when, for example, your current relationship has become routine, or when you’re in a dry spell and you haven’t been with someone in a while,” Loewenberg says. “Your subconscious is…

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