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‘I Am So Bad at Making New Friends!’

Resist the urge to treat friendlessness as a personal failure

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By Heather Havrilesky

Dear Polly,

I would like to be a joiner. I would like to be able to go to social gatherings — get-togethers, church groups, public classes — and meet people. I’ve never really admitted that out loud before, not even to myself.

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