Beauty is not in the Eye of this Beholder
They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What does it mean? What if you are the beholder and the object you are beholding is well…yourself? How do you see yourself? Is it higher or lower than others see you? Does it even matter?
The answer is of course…maybe.
Greetings & Salutations,
Welcome to the return of The Damn Newsletter. As you can see, I’m getting back to basics after my last post 3 months ago. I can (and will) discuss my hiatus and why I felt the need to go back to a more familiar writing style…later. For now, let me get on to my original point.
The answer is maybe. Let me explain why I say this
This past Saturday, I had a great conversation with a couple of friends. While we were talking I fired off one of my patented, self-loathing jokes about my appearance. The whole room got still. “Why would you say that”, they asked. “On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate yourself?”
I paused for a second to truly consider the question and I said about a 7…maybe a 7.5. They honestly looked perplexed. “Why would you rate yourself so low? If you don’t think highly of yourself, who will?”
Now I agree with that wholeheartedly. Which is why I rated myself that high…yes I said that high. 3 or 4 years ago…hell, 6 months ago, I would have rated myself a 4 or 5. The fact that I have upgraded my stance on my looks is what I like to call personal growth. And yes, most would say (like my friends did say on Saturday) that you have to throw personality into the equation. I can admit that I have some charisma. A certain charm if you will. But if you see me at a party across the room for the first time in your life, you don’t look at me and go…damn, that guy has a nice personality on him…I want me some of that.
Oh yeah the beholder question so here’s why my answer is maybe
Although no one’s opinions should influence how you feel about yourself, opinions should give you a better perspective on how you see things. On Saturday for example, I was shown through the eyes of others whom I trust that I am better than a 7.5 (maybe) and that personality matters. I mean you’re not gonna just look at a person, fall in love and get married. There has to be something else. Intellect, passion, kindness, chivalry, humor, and working penis do also play a part and bring me up considerably.
Of course, this is basic stuff that we all should know but something has to be said about needing to be reminded of these things when your mind is open to accept them. It gives you a shot in the arm, helps your confidence, and stimulates personal growth.
Much like the Autobots Matrix of Leadership, the conversations are here to light our darkest hour.
But those are just my thoughts…right or wrong…just what I was feeling at the time!!!!
