What If I Don’t Have Anything To Say?
As an academic overachiever, I became very skilled at giving the right answer and avoiding the wrong answers.
In academics, everything has a right and wrong answer. Even so-called “subjective” tests. The wrong answer to a writing prompt is a blank page, of course. Automatic zero.
So it’s common sense to write something rather than nothing. Maybe you’ll get partial credit, at least.

Naturally, I thought social interaction had the same rules. There are right things to say and wrong things to say. And I should always have something to say.
So I memorized lines and routines — in preparation for striking up conversations with beautiful women. I tried to plan for every contingency. Every possible thing she could throw at me. If I just studied enough, I could come up with the right answer in the moment.
Just like school. Right?
Wrong. This led me down a path where interacting with women was terrifying. There is no right and wrong, yet I was always worried about being wrong.
Worried about submitting the blank page.
Worried about not having anything to say.
Do you have the same worry? Does your stomach turn over when there is silence?
After YEARS of this self-inflicted torture, I decided to just embrace not knowing what to say. I decided to play with silence. Check out my 5 minute speech for what I learned about silence.
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