Letter from Love.
You will learn to love someone when you become nobody.
You will learn to love yourself when you allow yourself to be nobody.
“Perhaps the reason we are unable to love is that we yearn to be loved, that is, we demand something (love) from our partner instead of delivering ourselves up to him demand-free and asking for nothing but his company.” — Milan Kundera
When we meet someone, and somehow, we get connected deeply with them — our soul somehow touches a part of the other soul — a merging of two souls, a connection is formed.
When you like someone, or when you become infatuated with someone, you want to show them that you’re worth their attention, time, and affection. You want to become somebody for them.
You want to become the healer that takes away all their suffering.
You want to become the light that guides them through their darkest time.
You want to become the teacher that shows them all the life tricks.
You want to become their muse, the only reason they create.
You want to become the lover, the only reason their heart sings and aches.
You want to become somebody in their life, the rays of sunshine that lift all the clouds out of their mind, the song that sings all the melody easing every pain of their soul. You want to become somebody in their life because you want them to want you, to prove your worth to them, to want you, want you more — then, they wouldn’t leave.
You want to become somebody in someone’s life because you love them through your lens of fear.
You want to become somebody for someone you love because your love is tangled up with fear.
Fear of being abandoned, fear of being left behind, fear of saying goodbye, fear of being not good enough — When you truly love someone, you are compelled to confront the darkest parts of your heart — because allowing someone to touch the deepest love within you also exposes your deepest fears.
To love someone out of love, you learn to become nobody.
You learn to become the person who listens without judgment,
You learn to become the person who learns without expectation,
You learn to love someone without the need or the hope to become anyone in their life, because to love someone is to deliver your heart freely, without any conditions.
You learn to love someone when you’re nobody, that’s when you learn to deliver your heart freely to the person you love, that’s when you learn that to love, is to love.
And you long for love
and you die for love,
Have you learned to love yourself?
Have you learned to love yourself, as if you are nobody?
Every day we want to become someone else, someone other than who we are now.
Every day there is a new mountain we want to climb, another goal we want to reach, another identity we want to embody.
We want to become someone else, someone better than the person that we are, someone who is more successful, someone who is wiser, smarter, someone — someone else.
We don’t even realize, it’s not the world that we want to prove our worth, but ourselves.
Have you ever learned to love yourself as if you are nobody?
To love yourself as if you are nobody is to learn to embrace your heart for what it truly is, not for what you wish it to be.
To love yourself as if you are nobody, is to accept you are who you are — imperfect and full of flaws.
To love yourself as if you are nobody is to tell yourself, “I love you, for the person that you are, and for everything that you are not.”
