A Perpetually Single Person’s Guide to Writing Romance

Don’t be afraid to write romance even if you haven’t experienced it yourself.

Jenna Goldsmith
Feb 3, 2020 · 5 min read

Write what you dream and what you read

I find it best to ignore that rule and write what I can imagine. Despite not having much experience, I do know what love feels like. I’ve felt it through every character I’ve read. Through all my fictional crushes — some quite serious — I’m able to dream up the type of men I want for my fictional heroines.

Use any experience you have

While I don’t have much experience in the dating world — it doesn’t help that outside of my one relationship I am chronically bad at dating, specifically online dating — the experiences I do have still provide some knowledge.

Just do it

Sometimes you just got to write it. Throw caution to the wind and write the romance. It might end up awkward and cringy, but that’s how you grow as a writer.

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Behind-the-scenes stories about writing process…

Jenna Goldsmith

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Writer || INFJ || Wellness junkie and chronic oversharer. jgoldsmithwrites.com/

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Epilogue

Behind-the-scenes stories about writing process, publishing, and the writing life.

Jenna Goldsmith

Written by

Writer || INFJ || Wellness junkie and chronic oversharer. jgoldsmithwrites.com/

Epilogue

Epilogue

Behind-the-scenes stories about writing process, publishing, and the writing life.

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