It’s Okay to Admit That You Are Unhappy About Your Life
Rather than ‘fake it until you make it’ it’s better to ‘face it and then you make it’.
When was the last time you were overwhelmed by your own thoughts? The moment where your subconscious mind kept telling you that you were unhappy about your life.
“You deserve a much better job”
“You deserve love and belonging, and this relationship is certainly not giving you any of those things”
“Maybe you need to lose a couple of pounds”
And hundreds of other things that stall a smile on your face. It’s amazing how your subconscious mind kept telling you those things, trying to get you to bend on your knee.
If there is any magic in the world, it is that you can always ask for things to change.
A few years ago, I was really unhealthy, my weight almost reaches 90 kilograms, and I kept telling myself that “It’s okay to have a body like this, I love myself, and that what matters the most”. But deep down, I always wanted things to change.
I was in denial and flooded by the ‘self-love’ thingy — Don’t get me wrong, I love myself, and I embrace the concept of self-love. But at the end of the day, I just can’t fool my heart.
Most people always wanted something in their lives. More wealth, better health, better relationships, but not everyone is ready to get out of their comfort zones and embrace the uncertainty.
Either they are too lazy or don’t have the gut to do it. Sooner or later they just tried to make a peace with life, even though deep down — Buried in their souls — they wished that things were different.
I would challenge and share my unpopular opinion of why you should never make a peace with life.
A friend of mine wanted to have more wealth, so he could ditch his 9 to 5 job and buy more flashy things. I told him everything I know for hours, and when I ask him “So when are you going to implement these things?”
He answered, “Well I don’t know, it sounds too risky for me. After all I don’t really think money is important at all, I have a great family, and I’m grateful for it”.
I asked him again, “Then if you don’t care about money, why you were asking me this question in the first place?”. He didn’t reply anything, as he was drowned in confusion.
It takes great courage to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are unhappy about your life. Because nobody likes the truth.
Nobody likes to admit that “This relationship isn’t just going to work, so why did I have to pretend this is working and improving over time?”.
Only people who have dealt with their nightmares are brave enough to do that.
In business, there is a term called ‘pivot’, which means to readjust the company direction. In life, it is all the same, when things aren’t working as you wanted them to be, they also require some adjustments.
But you could never make a pivot if you can’t even admit to yourself “There’s something wrong here, and I need to make some changes”.
The choices will always be yours, whether you want to fight your inner demons or make peace with them by accepting things as they were?
My mentor taught me valuable lessons in life and in business, he said “You know why most people stay poor for the rest of their lives? It is because they are lazy, they find excuses rather than ways to make life works for them”.
It takes great awareness to change things. Admit it to yourself if you ever feel unhappy, and plan great things to make you feel happy ahead.
So which ones are you going to find? Excuses or ways?
Thank you for reading.
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