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The Untold Secret To Stay Happy When You’re By Yourself

“Be happy about your own life and you’ll be amazed at just how much more beautiful you’ll find it to be.” ― TemitOpe Ibrahim

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Life is packed with infinite possibilities, but you only have 24 hours a day to experience them and find meanings behind every moment. How is that fair? — a better question, what is fair? According to Wes Fesler, “Fairness is man’s ability to rise above his prejudices.”

Oftentimes, you make shallow assumptions about yourself. For example, when you are single, negative thoughts rush in, and suddenly you believe that you don’t deserve anyone or anything. You end up not treating yourself fairly as you treat others.

Imagine, you are alone. There is a voice inside your head saying that being alone is miserable. Instead of saving yourself from the evil voice, you let it sucks out your happiness like a vacuum cleaner — or a dementor.

When you are down in the dump, it seems impossible to open your eyes to see the silver lining in the cloud. Suddenly, the sky turns dark and there are no more rainbows and ice creams. Happiness becomes scarce.

Happiness Is Everywhere!

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When you are single and you are not happy, remember that happiness is abundant. You can find it in the simplest thing in life, such as bathing in the morning light, breathing fresh air, listening to music, or reading books.

“Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light,” said Professor Dumbledore in Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban. Do you know how to turn on the light?

Of course, you don’t. You have been so busy looking out and comparing yourself to others that you don’t notice the obvious, the light is in you. If you want to stay happy when you are by yourself, you have to start looking for it within yourself!

“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams, who looks inside, awakes,” said Carl Jung. That is why the only thing you need to hear is, WAKE UP!

Wake up and date yourself! You can take yourself out to a nice eating place and order a dine-in or takeout, a refreshing walk in the nearest park, a fun time in the arcade, or a joyful prowl in your favorite bookstore. There must be a way to fall in love with yourself.

Focus On Your Growth!

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Growing doesn’t mean forgetting or abandoning your emotion. If you watch the children's movie Inside Out, you know how important each emotion is to us.

Self-growth means recognizing the emotion without letting yourself be swept by it too hard. Feeling sad is normal, cry it out! but you need to remember that you still deserve to be happy and to enjoy every little thing God has prepared for you.

This is where you return to yourself and focus on your growth. What is your goal? What are your hobbies? What food do you like? What are the things that make you happy? Have you tried that new coffee shop that you’ve always wanted to go to? Have you finally read the book you bought a long time ago but never get a chance to?

Use this time as a second chance to get to know yourself again. This time, better and deeper!

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