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I Was 18 When I Got Pregnant — I Was Terrified To Tell My Parents

When you tell your parents you’re pregnant at a very young age.

Agnes Laurens
The Essayist
Published in
5 min readSep 14, 2021

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I wore my red shirt, my belly grew, and often I wore my grey Oxford sweater my partner gave me when I was pregnant, one size bigger from being pregnant and wanted to wear it a million times during pregnancy.

I walked into the kitchen in our new house, I couldn’t cook properly, but I had to learn this within just six months. This time, after four months, I could cook a proper meal: Indonesian from my father’s homeland.

When I walked into that kitchen, I almost fell on the floor because of a mis-step, still, something bothered me: I didn’t tell my parents and siblings about my pregnancy. I was scared. For what was I scared? For their reaction and discouragement towards my being with child.

Basically, I was still a teenager, becoming an adult, which being pregnant was going very fast. But I was not planning to have an abortion. Emotionally I was not stable to do such a thing. In my view, it was not fair to the unborn child. I immediately felt something there in my belly, even when you couldn’t see anything. I am a sensitive person, and I knew — because of…

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Agnes Laurens
The Essayist

Agnes Laurens is a writer. She writes for the local newspaper. Agnes lives in The Netherlands, with three daughters. https://linktr.ee/alaurens