10 Places To Ask For Help This Holiday Season

You matter, even if it doesn’t always seem like it.

This is Day 3 of The Establishment’s 12 Days of Holiday Self Care series. You can read Day 1 here and Day 2 here.

Tis the season for feeling alone and invisible. If you don’t have a Hallmark greeting card relationship with the holiday season, it’s easy to feel like you are the only one. It’s easy to believe that this says something bad about you and your worth. Please, don’t let all the social media messages of holiday cheer, and the made-for-TV specials of family bonding, fool you — the holidays are very tough for a lot of people.


You matter, even if it doesn’t always seem like it. You matter and you are worthy of love and peace and comfort. And help — you are worthy of help, if you need it.

Depression, Anxiety & Mental Health

National Alliance of Mental Illness. Helpline: 800–950-NAMI

The Trevor Project. Crisis intervention and suicide prevention for LGBTQI youth. Lifeline: 866–488–7386

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Lifeline: 1–800–273-TALK


Trauma & Abuse Recovery & Support

RAINN. Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network. Hotline: 800–656-HOPE

HAVOCA. Help for adult victims of child abuse.

PTSD Alliance. Help & support for those living with PTSD.

Substance Abuse & Eating Disorders

SAMHSA. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Treatment Referral Line: 1–800–662-HELP. Disaster Distress Helpline: 1–800–985–5990


Faces and Voices of Recovery. Real addiction recovery stories from survivors.

National Eating Disorders Association. Helpline: 1–800–931–2237

When You Just Need Someone To Talk To

7 Cups. Free, anonymous chat with a caring individual.

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