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Do you have anxiety dreams?
Boy oh boy I do.
Some are pseudo recurring — my brain likes to trot out the classics like loose teeth, being naked in public, and standing on stage waiting to perform lines I’ve never learned — but it also has some special visions all its own.
In addition to pulling long worms from my mouth where their tails are down down down my throat and I just keep pulling, pulling, pulling, I also have anxiety dreams about tattoos.
I think — in a quick and dirty psychoanalysis of myself — that this is a very direct commentary on my fear of permanency.
I can barely wear the same sweater two days in a row so the idea of living in one house for 45 years or a lotus blossom on my back is just about inconceivable.
It fills me with dread.
But recently I’ve been thinking a lot about how to lance these psychological blisters — how do I conquer all this anxiety without quaffing valium or becoming a yoga teacher because let’s be honest my “spiritual life” is basically
a howling void.
I started thinking compulsively about the phrase, “this too shall pass.”
Every joy is fleeting so let it fill your goddamn heart. Every sorrow is fleeting so don’t let it consume your goddamn heart.
It’s the most beautiful framing I’ve ever found for my brand of nihilism which is, essentially, nothing matters so EVERYTHING MATTERS.
Finally I had thought about it so much I told my best friend Andrew who knows all too well about my tattoo phobia and he said…
“That’s so weird. That’s actually a parable in the Mars book I’m reading right now.”
So I looked it up. And basically? A king (sometimes King Soloman) asks his advisors for a ring that will make him happy when he is sad, and sad when he is happy.
And they bring him a simple gold ring engraved with, “This too shall pass.”
And I think I might give myself that same strange gift this year.
But engraved on my own body.
With love + rage,
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