Bad Advice On Counting Up Sexual Partners And Pining For Panties

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7 min readJun 20, 2017

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“I’m a married man in my 40s. I love my wife (we have no children by mutual agreement), and I know she loves me. I want to keep my marriage intact.

My problem is that my wife does nothing to make herself attractive to me. In fact, she chooses ‘looks’ that have the exact opposite effect, from her clothes to her hair, to her eye glasses. She is pretty, but seems to want to deliberately conceal this. She stopped exercising the instant we got engaged and does nothing to keep herself in shape. (She admitted the only reason she started working out was to get a boyfriend.) As a result, I’m not attracted to her anymore. I hate saying that, but it’s true.

I’ve tried communicating. I’ve complimented her massively when she dresses becomingly. I’ve asked her time and again to come to the gym with me. I’ve never been mean about it. Still, she does nothing.

All of this is compounded by the fact that she tells me every day how attractive she finds me. I do go to the gym regularly. I do it for myself, but I also do this to please her.

I work in sales and…

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