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OH WHY HELLO THERE!

This Friday, we have some spectacular news.

Ijeoma Oluo — Establishment editor-at-large and activist-writer extraordinaire — has released her new book, So You Want To Talk About Race.

IN ORDER TO PROPERLY CELEBRATE, WE’RE THRILLED TO ANNOUNCE …

THE FIRST THREE HUMANS TO BECOME AN ESTABLISHMENT MEMBER WILL GET A FREE SIGNED COPY!

It’s already being called “a clear and candid contribution to an essential conversation…”

OBVIOUSLY.

She’s brilliant.

Read her latest piece below! And get your hands on her book to help shift America’s dialogue on race.

With love + rage,
Katie Tandy
Co-founder | Creative Director

In The Midst Of #MeToo, What Type Of Man Do You Want To Be?

By Ijeoma Oluo

If you wouldn’t dream of coercing a dude against his will to hang out with you and still call it a ‘fun hang-out session,’ why would you coerce a woman to sleep with you and still call it consensual sex? Why don’t women get the same basic respect in sexual intimacy that you afford your bros while watching the game?

Is that the type of man you want to be?

A man who thinks that spending an evening feeling sexually frustrated over being aroused by a woman while not being able to have sex is the worst possible outcome for a sexual encounter.

A man who would settle for a woman leaving a sexual encounter with them feeling violated, hurt, and betrayed, rather than have no sexual encounter with that woman at all.

To Raise A Feminist Son, Talk To Him About Aziz Ansari

By Sonora Jha

What we need to talk about are the cultural conversations rising up around the Ansari incident. What we need to talk about is training men to read women the way women have been trained to read men.

What my son must know — and what I addressed directly with him — is that none of this is as difficult as the men around him might be saying it is. It’s actually quite easy. Girls are raised into womanhood with a thorough understanding of men’s motivations and cues.

Through warnings and whispers, through fables and giggles, we are tutored rigorously on what men will want — in the best, non-violent iterations, they will want your body, they will want your loyalty, they will want your food, they will want you to smile and cheer them on and tell them they make you happy.

For generations, we have been lined up during training sessions and then sent forth to laugh heartily at their jokes, raise their children, starve our bodies into attractiveness, and fake our orgasms.

The Ravages Of American Poverty

By Katie Tandy

Can you talk a bit about the evolving role of religion and faith in your life…there is a tremendous amount of religious wrestling and imagery in this poetry collection.

“I am trying to parallel this idea of faith and whatever God is…and say it’s more resonant and more omnipotent in rural places because of the amount of actual space that faith can take up.

But also in the fact that rural places mean poverty and poverty comes with an assumed sense of devote-ness. The world isn’t giving you anything…so that must be the lord’s way.

I want to show how religion and poverty inform and touch upon one another in a way that is so starkly American.”

The Devastating Irony Of Trump’s ‘Shithole’ Comments

By Tauriq Moosa

White supremacy is a helluva drug, but the cure is not to dive in to another illusion. While it’s good and encouraging to celebrate African greatness, it’s also important not to lose sight of African countries’ historical oppression, and the white supremacy it’s directly linked to.

I live in South Africa. There are no perfect countries anywhere in the world, of course — but our issues are distinctly connected to the scars of European colonialism.

This is why I don’t particularly care about Trump’s opinion of the countries themselves, but about how this opinion harmonizes with the dehumanization of an entire people — and how, ironically, this hatred comes from the same place that brought African countries here in the first place.

How Can We Teach Consent If We Don’t Teach About Pleasure?

By Andrea Barrica

As a sex educator, I’ve heard this story hundreds of times. It used to be my story, too.

The thing about bad, one-sided sex is that you can be sexually active for years and not realize how bad or one-sided it is — that you’re missing out on a wide array of joy and pleasure. I grew up in a conservative, religious family, and not once did anyone ever tell me that sex… should feel good. I was taught that men would try to get sex from me, and that my job was to say “no” and protect my virginity.

While recent accounts about Aziz Ansari and the greater #MeToo movement have started a long overdue and deeply necessary conversation about harassment, coercion, abuse, and our culture around sex, it lacks a critical element: any meaningful discussion of pleasure.

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