Our Conversations Shouldn’t Focus On How Men Feel About Female Victimization

The Establishment
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8 min readMay 23, 2016

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By Dianna Anderson

When we dehumanize women by making them vessels for telling traumatic stories, it’s nothing more than trauma porn.

WWhenever I bring up the ongoing media conversation about harassment of women online with people who don’t spend much time on the internet (or have apparently been living under a rock) and explain the kind of treatment I’ve received, I get some variation of a shocked “People said WHAT?” Sometimes, that shock and surprise turns into a strange kind of sadness, with the person attempting to apologize on behalf of people they’ve never met, and having all kinds of feelings at me about my experiences with online trolling.

As a writer and woman with a slightly-lower profile online, I don’t get the levels of vitriol or abuse many women and non-binary people face. I’ve been told once or twice that I should be raped, but no one’s sent me pictures of where I live or threatened to show up at my work. Most of the time, the harassment I receive can be somewhat amusing — like the guy who told me I’d broken a “blood covenant” by having premarital sex or the dude who insisted I tell him my income. But I’ve also occasionally felt scared when trolls made comments far too…

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