Unabashed, Unexamined Joy

The Establishment
Jan 12, 2018 · 6 min read





Hi. I am trying not to center myself in the recent tragedy in Santa Barbara.

There was a mudslide on Tuesday. 17 people are dead; 12 more are still missing.

My brother, his wife, and my nephew are not among the dead, but they are among those who barely escaped. Their house was destroyed in a flood of river and boulders.

In piecing together what happened — I’ve still yet to talk to him on the phone, we’ve just exchanged loving, but cryptic emails — I’ve realized how deeply inured I’d become to images of devastation.

In my manic pouring through news coverage, I realized that my brother and the day that will define his very life — that was before the mudslide, this was after — were just another stream of miserable people fighting for their lives. Another blur of fluorescent fire-fighters, more bleary-eyed people staring, stunned at the carnage that once was their life.

How many fires, tsunamis, beatings, murders, floods and famines can we truly process? We can’t. So in lieu of true empathy we cocoon and callous ourselves, again and again, until we are almost impervious to the plight of others that aren’t Our Own.

What on earth can we do, we think. So, we simply don’t.

In truth, I’m not entirely sure what to do with this.
I can’t ask myself — or anyone else — to offer true empathy to every human currently suffering, we’d all go mad with rage and grief, but perhaps we can pause when confronted with suffering. Maybe that pause is a thank you, maybe it’s a psychic beam of hope, maybe it’s anger. It’s but a moment — it’s tiny — but offer it. See your fellow human in pain.

When I think of my brother’s face, and his wife’s, and his son’s I am flooded with relief. I am flooded with joy. It will be impossible to ever take any one of them for granted ever again.

And that is a strange and beautiful gift.

Life is so goddamn fragile. Be as present and kind and chock full of joy as you can possibly manage for everything and everyone you love is ever-poised on a precipice, an edge they can tumble over at any moment.

With love + rage,
Katie Tandy
Co-founder | Creative Director

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