You Don’t Have To Orgasm To Enjoy The OMGYes Masturbation Site

I love talking about sex. I think the different ways that people experience pleasure, and the psychology behind this, is fascinating. But I have a confession, and it’s something that I can barely believe I’m sharing on the internet. Hopefully, my vulnerability can inspire others who are like me.

I’m anorgasmic.

Yep — even though I’ve written about kink and naked pilates and orgasmic meditation and rubber ducky vibrators, I’ve never had a mind-blowing orgasm. Despite what you might think, I’m not ashamed of my sexuality, and I’ve never experienced trauma. I’m a healthy, sexually open person. I’ve just never had an “I’ll have what she’s having” moment.

In this, I am hardly alone. According to the Mayo Clinic, anorgasmia — which it defines as “regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation” — is a “common occurrence, affecting a significant number of women.” (The Mayo Clinic is presumably using “women” to mean people with vulvas. But it’s important to note that not all women have vulvas, and not everyone with a vulva is a woman.)

Yet despite its prevalence, anorgasmia remains deeply misunderstood and stigmatized.

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