Limiting Beliefs

Why are we expected to limit ourselves to work at retail companies?

We can’t live every day like it’s our last and live and be limitless if we are expected to limit what we can wear and do as a coworker or associate.

Beliefs are something that not only should be valued but appreciated and understood. If one person or one team, refuses do understand, appreciate the values of each of their coworkers, things will begin to go down for them.

For example, if someone has a mental illness and certain things that are connected to the work environment and the rules that are being enforced by the management team, the management team should mindfully fully hear what their coworkers/associates are trying to tell them and work with what info/data they have been given, and do like this manager did as explained in this video!

If someone was expected to wear only “black and white” and it had impacted their health and recovery with their mental illness (recovery), then I’d believe it’s the manager’s job to find a way to work the problem out. To find where both come out in a win-win situation in the business term.

If other rules that the management team have been enforcing with their coworkers/associates are affecting them negatively with their health and other important facts, the management team should do the same as I just explained. Find a win-win situation for the solution to the problem being given by associates/coworkers. If any of these below are not duly embraced, encouraged and used, then there will be problems in the workplace with coworkers.*

And I’m one person who has experience working at Walmart Canada for 2 years (July 2017 – June 2019). I worked there as a sales associate in the fashion department and later in September 2018, I was moved to a cashier position for more hours on my end and benefiting them for having another trained cashier available to work cashier shifts. And during my time there, I’ve found they weren’t fully 100% listening to my concerns and doing what was given as an example in the video provided above.

I felt like the rules were more important than my own health issues and circumstances. They were updated and aware about my circumstances (living in an abusive environment at home with parents) and my health issues (mental illness: depression, PTSD, some anxiety, ADD). And that was one of the reasons that lead me to ending my employment with them with Walmart.

The environment there, the rules, limitations were feeding my anxiety and depression and were matching some of the same kind of things that match my living situation/circumstance. The need of following the rules that have been enforced by the government it seems have been really hard on me while working at Walmart. The environment wasn’t good for my health and recovery!

I thought I could come to work being that I’d be leaving my abusive home, where I wouldn’t be around any of those signs of unhealthy relationships or unhealthy environments. Well I was wrong about that, working there only benefited with having a recurrent pay every two weeks and getting out of the house, but the environment at the workplace was not what I was hoping and needing to benefit my health and recovery!

*The 10 Core Values of Zappos

10 Core Values of Zappos

• Core values are what support the vision, shape the culture and reflect what the company values. They are the essence of the company’s identity – the principles, beliefs or philosophy of values.
• Establishing strong core values help companies in their decision-making process, clarify the identity of the company to the outside world and are now becoming primary tools for recruitment and retention.
• No two company cultures are exactly alike, yet the core values for a lot of corporations’ sound very similar. In most cases, one would not be able to identify the company by looking at their list of core values.
• Committable core values that are truly integrated in a company’s operations can align an entire organization and serve as a guide for employees to make their own decisions.
• It doesn’t actually matter what your core values are, or the company’s core values are – what matters is you have them and you commit to them.
• What is important is the alignment you get from them when they become the default way of thinking for the entire organization.
• Your personal core values define who you are and a company’s core value ultimately defines a company’s character and brand.

The 10 Core Values of Zappos

1. Delivery WOW through Service
2. Embrace and Drive Change
3. Create Fun and a Little Weirdness
4. Be Adventurous, Creative and Open-minded
5. Pursue Growth and Learning
6. Build Open and Honest relationships with communication
7. Build a positive team and family spirit
8. Do more with less
9. Be passionate and determined
10. Be humble

• Zappos expects all the 10 core values to be reflected in everything they do, how they interact with each other, how they interact with customers, vendors or business partners.
• The core values form the framework from which Zappos makes all decisions These core values form a natural part of employee’s everyday language and way of thinking.
• A challenge is thrown at each employee to make at least one improvement every week to make Zappos better reflect their core values.

I believe that the amount of limitations linked to the rules and environment, to me felt like I was very limited with how much I could grow there. I felt like my needs, and my health issues weren’t valued and my goals with my health and improving it, weren’t as important as the rules and dress code were to the company. Like as explained in this post I’ve also created:

Fashion Limiting Beliefs Impacting One’s Life

Next I’d like to cover is on the subject of perfection and how it is connected and related to this main topic of workplace and the rules being not helpful to associates/coworkers. Perfection is somehow expected to some level and it is unhealthy. No one should expect anyone or any task to be completed to complete perfection.

As also known that humans aren’t perfect which therefore should not be expected to perform on the job with a perfect grade. Because it’s not realistic. Like I’m chill, they teach us about the goal method: SMART

S: Specific

M: Measurable

A: Achievable

R: Realistic

T: Time-Based

Here’s my post I’ve also created as more proof to help back up my belief and statement as a source:

Lying To Be Perfect?

Perfect is way overrated and we all should aim and strive for imperfection in both personal, work and any other part of someone’s life. Perfection ruins and harms one’s health so much as proof by the book: The Perfection Deception: Why Trying To Be Perfect is Sabotaging Your Relationships, Making You Sick & Holding Your Happiness Hostage

The Perfection Deception

And also another great book I just finished this summer: The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

And I really recommend reading both these books! I haven’t yet finished reading the Perfection Deception book but so far I’ve learned some ways Perfection shows up that aren’t easily noticed.

Here’s something we all should think about: from an episode of When Calls The Heart: Christmas episode:

Sam: Plans are a funny thing.

Jack: How’s that?

Sam: They don’t always turn out the way you expect. Take me for instance: I didn’t plan on spending the night in jail.

Jack: no I suppose you didn’t.

Sam: A few hours ago I was hungry, cold and now I got a roof over my head, a hot meal. Sometimes what you don’t want, turns out to be exactly the thing you need. Well it’s kinda a story of my life.

Jack: How’s that?

Sam: Well the time was like most people, I wanted to be rich, powerful, important. Well I never got to be any of those things. So I had to make a different life for myself. I had to figure out what I really wanted.

Jack: Well I guess we all gotta figure that out sooner or later.

Sam: And then life doesn’t go the way you want, it’s a good time to stop and think about it.

“Sometimes, Just when we need them, life wraps metaphors up in little bows for us. When you think all is lost, the things you need the most return unexpectedly.” “We are, in the end, a sum of our parts, and when the body fails, all the virtues we hold dear go with it.”

“Someone once asked, “If you could take it all back, would you?”

At the time I didn’t know. Now I do. I wouldn’t take that terrible experience back for anything in the world. Too much light has come out of my darkness.”