Put Tomorrow In A Bottle
Your born to save today. Put tomorrow in a bottle. ~ Timbaland ft Chad Kroeger
For those who are wanting to learn how to focus on tackling today and not worrying, stressing or becoming anxious about tomorrow, this article is for you.
To start talking about how and why we have these stressful, anxious, worrying thoughts in our minds about the future; we do so because we don’t want it to end up that way yet all we ever do about it is stress, become anxious and worry about the future instead of doing something to prevent that imagined reality from occurring. Though truth be told, in our reality, it never happens.
Yeah it may worry us of the fact that it can possibly happen, even though it’s likely not gonna happen. It’s the fear that gets us to overthink, stress, worry and become anxious about that becoming part of our future/life. So we end up worrying, stressing, overthinking and become anxious about it because we fear it more than we actually have the guts in that moment to face it head on and remind ourselves: it’s not something that’s likely to happen and we need to focus on doing all that we can to not be all caught up and focused on what’s not happening around us.
Doing so, is like the beginning process of practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is a practice that means not only being present in the current moment but also listening to what someone is saying or what is going on around you. Which means working with progress gradually to not think while someone else is talking to you or any other kind of situation that you’ve been in before.
Next is another part of mindfulness which is gradually working out of the habit of “multi-tasking” in your life. As much as employers want their possible employees to multi-task while working for their company, it doesn’t lead in success. When you are multi-tasking, you are basically doing many things bit by bit. You do one part of one task, then start working on a project, then you make your lunch, then you go do another task or work more on a previous task/project, and then you eat your meal/lunch.
While all that is happening, you are more than enough likely to miss some small or big facts/points or steps in a project and even for example moving too fast with more than one task on your mind, gets your finger cut by something sharp that’s around you like scissors or some other work tool.
To continue on this, I would like to say that I don’t like nor believe in “multi-tasking” anymore. As to what I learned after reading this article as attached above. And so since I’ve read that article, I’ve come to gradually work with progress on getting out of the habit of multi-tasking. And I’m hoping that my current and future employers understand this (read the article) and respect the proof and put this into their practice and encourage their employees and themselves into this new habit.
Anyway, back to talking about worrying, stressing, becoming anxious and overthinking about the future; it’s in our own ability to control our own emotions. And on that note, I’d like to bring up another practice with mental health and psychology the name of: emotional intelligence. Which is a practice where you learn to control your emotions (with time you gain more self control which happens when you gain enough grey matter if you didn’t have enough before or were previously depressed or mentally ill) and use your emotions with intelligence.
For example, during a time when the stigma around mental illness makes it difficult for you to respond and see the moment in an emotionally intelligent view, you could easily let your emotions take over. Or you could think long and hard to yourself that: even though your parents or whoever doesn’t support, educate themselves on mental health and do better with supporting and understanding mental illness, in time that will happen. But in the meantime, it’s important to stick to that belief and focus on what you can do to continue recovering with your mental illness or other mental health issues on your own to the best of your ability.
And remember, in each moment you can do better. Some moments as they come and go: remember that you did the best you could in that moment and now you can look back at that moment and use that as an example to help you do better in the next moment. And that moment is now! Two more things I wanna add to this life-changing lesson: are on gratitude and a belief of mine that was linked to my small mental health issues with anxiety.
At a certain point, it’s a good time to think about what you are grateful for. What have you learned in each moment that can teach you something valuable that you are grateful for? And why? How has that changed your point of view of life? And what are you gonna do with that gained knowledge to put into your new and improved lifestyle?
Next is focusing on the thought that many of us struggle to know how to respond and what to believe. And that is the thought: “it’s the end of the world if I don’t do this, if I don’t do that, if I don’t say this, say that, if I don’t…” In our reality, it’s not the end of the world, it’s actually just the anxiety that is making us believe that. Though it is within our own ability to not believe it and to do something.
For example, if you have seen the movie: Tomorrowland, David Nix makes a great speech and it really adds to what I’m talking about here. Hoping you have seen it, if not, go watch it now, once you’ve finished reading this article first. Focus on one thing at a time, (no multi-tasking).
Though when it comes to recovery or any journey that includes this, isn’t and nor ever will be perfect. And don’t beat yourself for not getting it right the first few times even. No recovery is perfect and don’t listen to what society says about anything. In fact nobody gets it right, I haven’t gotten it right in 5 attempts or less.
Recovery isn’t perfect and neither is life, and though it may be a tough journey for you, know that you are not alone. And try to be kind to yourself, there’s no need to be hard on yourself for not being perfect. Not everyone in our society knows the reality of recovery and the journey of it. It’s imperfect and you know what? I love it that way and I believe that it’s way healthier and kinder to our brains, yet our mental health!
In every moment there is a possibility of a better future, but you people won’t believe it. And because you won’t believe it, you won’t do what is necessary to make it a reality. – David Nix, Tomorrowland
What are you thinking now? How are you gonna react to what you’ve learned here? What can do you do start on your new journey to a new and improved life?