Selena Gomez’s “Kill Em With Kindness” calls for love in response to hate!

Put down the weapons you fight with.

We all want to live happy lives yet we find ourselves having people and how life shapes our past, present and future. We lose sight and forget to be kind, accepting to what we can’t control and understanding how what we do have the power and control to change.

If we were told by s future-predicting machine that the world will end in approximately 58 days, what would you do? Would you fear the doom of the world ending and let it hav full power over you, or be hopeful and optimistic and figure out a way to prevent that from happening in reality?

A lot of people can be really stubborn and ignorant to what they are really causing and triggering for others and things in our world, they let their emotions make a mess of things. And they can also do things that are illegal such as bullying, crimes and other things. And though we may not have control or the responsibility to make them make the right choices rather than doing what’s illegal or wrong in our society, we do have control and our responsibly with our own behaviour.

How we look at situations and events, and choosing to respond in the most responsible and emotionally intelligent way possible. It may not be easy but it’s so worth it in so many ways, you won’t know now but in time, you’ll understand and be able to see everything more clearly!

The world can be a nasty place. You know it, I know it.

We are always wanting to be right all the time that we aren’t aware of what we are causing in our society. More than we we thought we may even believed or thought ourselves, right? And as much as we want to, we should come to the realization and understanding that we must give someone else the opportunity to be understood and heard. There’s a quote that relates to what I’m explaining here:

“We are so focused on trying to be understood, we forget to be understanding.”

So as much as we ‘feel’ like striving or asking to be understood, we must do others a favour by trying our best to understand them and what they are trying to tell us here in those little moments, you come to have found yourself thinking: how they could be so blind to what we want them to understand from us.

So make that right choice and think of the other person. But sides matter and they both deserve to be understood, spoken, heard and considered equally in each and every moment.

Always somebody you’re willing to fight to be right. Your lies are bullets, your mouth’s the gun. No war and anger has ever won.

Remember, no war and anger has ever won. So when you are having a conversation, think long and hard before you say things you’ll regret. Our health and gym teachers in school teach us the method of calmly and peacefully leaving the situation and the group of people involved in the problem to sit alone to figure out how you are gonna resolve the problem and same goes to the rest who are involved; before coming back to make a wise and smart decision of how you and those in the group are gonna solve the problem together.

But in reality, I’ve come to realize that this method can and has gone down the tubes so fast and so soon after we graduate from school. Even years later, we haven’t referenced this method our teachers have taught us to use after we have left. How is this happening? Well I believe it’s the belief that we are so easily able to follow our emotions rather than taking time to realize what our emotions block from our vision. We call this clouded judgment.

A time where We can evaluate and see the whole situation in the perspective of a picture viewing everything clearly. Which can be possible to make a clear and logical decision on how to respond better or respond before causing a war from anger on both sides.

Put out the fire, before igniting next time your fighting.

If you want things to be resolved or prevented with peace rather than war and anger, then you must find yourself in your happy, or peaceful place and remember the important facts that need to be addressed in the conversation when you go to have these conversations with someone.

Sometimes I get frustrated when I hear lies about who I am. The internet is meant to keep you “updated” but it just takes old news and freezes it like it’s now. – Selena Gomez

In the end here, we can all be more kind and not just during the holidays when we are more likely more caring and kind. But all year long and try your best to be as mindful as you can about this.