Why Limit Yourself?
Live like it’s your last day:
You know I’ve been thinking & I’ve decided I’m gonna just out it out there & with no shame, regret or anything else. And that is my thoughts, feelings & beliefs of conforming to society, & then conforming to the rules of others parts of life: for example the dress code at part time jobs. And to start explaining my thoughts, feelings & beliefs on this particular top: well here is comes.
To start off, I’d like to talk about how companies like Walmart & other companies enforce dress codes where they expect their associates to wear only black & white. Honestly my thoughts on that are my belief that I’d be happy yet happier knowing I’m not limiting myself and even better, not limiting others if I were the one who enforced/created these dress code rules.
And in more depth, I’ll also say that I’d be happier knowing as per tomorrow is never guaranteed to “live everyday like it’s my last” & knowing if today was my last day, knowing I didn’t limit myself in any way or limitation. Therefore I’m saying: “you are your own limit” meaning that I’ll also admit that I’ve worn a green top on a Wednesday & Thursday for a couple of my Walmart shifts & I didn’t get called out or told to change by management.
Though I hadn’t made my speech of why I’ve chosen to not let someone else’s limited rules limit me in any way. Yeah some people would disagree in the way many always do; also because they hear but they don’t listen therefore not actually listening & in the end not being empathetic and respectful of someone like myself’s opinion, belief & thoughts on something like this. It also comes with this quote: “with every big decision, comes with an equally important share of the risk” & you know what?
I’m way more than happy to be taking risks even small like this. Look I know this may be risky because as of January 12, management has been strict on the dress code, & if someone doesn’t follow it, either has to change before returning or attending shift or may have their employment with the company ended; but honestly again, I’m not gonna apologize for what I believe in! But before they make their final decision, they should at least hear what I have to say & why maybe limiting others may come from some personal or political issues that brought them to limiting others in the first place.
In the end here, we shouldn’t choose to let our past limitations make us limit others by enforcing rules & taking employment away from innocent people for something so pointless & more than what may be easily seen on the outside!
Living everyday like it’s your last, tomorrow is never promised so I believe that we should not be limited: wear whatever you feel you wanna wear with no dress codes to follow to conform with society and rules. If I died before tomorrow, I’d be happy knowing I didn’t limit myself: if I chose to not be limited by some limiting dress code rules!
You know there’s something else about my belief of living every day like it’s your last that I’d like to also share. You know feel so obligated all the time to act, feel, do, be and wear what society expects us to wear and overall live our lives! But the truth here is that so much of society has mentally blinded themselves of the real truth. The real truth behind why they’ve chosen to enforce rules and expectations on our society!
The real truth has to do with something from their past or someone else’s that they may or may not have been a victim or witness of; where it made them act one-sided, ignorant, immature without even realizing it and also expecting others to live up to their new standards that may or may not be all that logical, wise or smart for any and all matters! You know we all get the choice to choose who we are gonna be. But the challenge is what I’m about to reveal:
“But we’re not automatically like them. We get to choose who we’re gonna be.” ~ Descendants
It’s takes a lot of inner strength, power, courage and all else to ignore and not give into the power of those expecting us to live up to their standards. But why? Because living up to their standards has never made us one ounce happy; though people see us with a smile on our faces but then again:
- Girls are taught to smile and keep it all inside.
- But it’s not like men are encouraged to be angry in public.
Get what I’m saying here? I’m saying that we are encouraged and inspired to some degree to keep it inside by the phrase of: “fake it until you make it” and also with putting our emotional and personal issues aside and be selfless and put on a strong smile and care for others and be less selfish and the outlook from others like we are asking them or looking for pity or sympathetic looks or responses.
For starters on that sub point, we would never expect that because that is not what we expect others to respond in these moments because reality is we actually want someone to actually listen to us and yet also support us in ways that aren’t negative or mentally damaging to someone going through any personal, mental or emotional issue of their own.
We don’t expect too much out of these calls but just some simple and small acts that mean more than you may ever know, especially right now and other moments. Until you choose to see how it makes someone feel when you are in our position to be shamed or judged negatively by our outside appearance or rather so our choice of actions and words. Lashing out at people in person and on social media, know this: “when someone is in a depressive episode/state, one has lost a fair amount of grey matter in their brain therefore representing as self control” meaning that we are lacking the amount of self control in our brain to control ourselves in heated and messy moments.
And to also add here, life is hard and unfair and challenging but that doesn’t mean we have any logical right to lash out at people or to even be ignorant, immature or any other kind of behaviour towards others who want nothing less than some healthy support: to have. shoulder to cry on without shame or judgment pushing us away from others who could easily enough change the scene around by being empathetic and selfless enough to be there for someone.
Wouldn’t you want someone there for you regardless of how crazy, stupid or any other label anyone has used; to support you, to be there for you, to lend their shoulder for you to cry on, to actually be listened to and heard enough to be supported in ways that millions of our citizens today still aren’t doing! Soemthing so simple yet millions have chosen to not change, to remain who they are and to expect others to change! Here’s something for you:
Radical Acceptance: cuz that’s about understanding that things can just suck in life and you have to come to acceptance because that’s just the way life is. You have to learn to work around it, work with it, it’s really important!
It’s something that helps bring across my point about accepting that life is just gonna suck sometimes and we won’t always get our way and we have to accept that fact, make peace and keep moving forwards! Life is hard but that doesn’t mean we have to let our anger or emotions or feelings towards that make life hard or harder for others. That’s just what I believe to be irrational and immature!
And to be honest, I’m here to share that some people in my own life still haven’t learned this lesson upon many others that they’ve refused and never given me the chance to hear but rather more; listen to me to wait I have to say. They eventually find me not letting them have their full say and give me a signal telling me to let them finish. Yet when it comes to me getting the full chance to be heard and have my say, it’s not totally listened to nor given the full chance because of this: “you hear but you don’t listen!”
Life is full of risk. You never know what’s gonna happen but if you don’t take chances, then you will never know what you’re capable of. But it requires a leap of faith. The important thing is to find someone you want to take a leap with. And then you close your eyes and you take a deep breath, and jump! ~ I Do, I Do, I Do
