How to Stop Falling For Men Who Don’t Choose You

Patricia Vilchez
The Everyday Reflection
3 min readJun 14, 2024

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Dating advise with Elizabeth Karina.

Is this your pattern?
So you meet a guy and initially, you are unsure how much you like him. He comes on strong, he really pursues you and seems to be super attracted to you.

You begin to let him in. There’s a lot of attraction, chemistry, and
fun. He’s charismatic and charming. He’s got masculine qualities you admire (like being successful, driven, and smart). And you fall for him.

And it’s at this point that something shifts. A few weeks or months in.

He is taking longer and longer to text you back. He’s asking you out less frequently. It feels like he’s less motivated. You’re confused because, in the beginning, he was so into you.

As you notice this change, you begin to feel anxious. Leaning forward.
You finally get the courage to ask him what’s up, what does he want? He gives you some unclear answers like, “I’m enjoying spending time with you,” “Let’s go with the flow,” and “I like things to evolve organically.”

You’re not feeling totally calmed by that, but it could mean something, right? So you grab onto it — he could fall for you.

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Patricia Vilchez
The Everyday Reflection

I am a foreign young woman living and dating in Paris, sharing my experiences and some life lessons advice I pattu.v01@gmail.com