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Indian Parents and Government Sector Jobs: The Unconditional Love That Is Hindering the Rise of New Indian Entrepreneurs

UPSC is a bold choice, but not the fate of every youngster.

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The worst career advice I’ve heard from my father after finishing B.Tech from IIT Roorkee is, “Prepare for IAS.” After a few weeks, “Prepare for IES.” Wait wait! More is coming, “Prepare for UPSC.”

I listen, listen and listen because I respect his opinion and don’t want to snap-judge.

Making a career decision is my choice — he made it clear as soon as I entered the college of my dreams. That’s why he gives his idea and leaves for me to decide if I want to pursue it.

Be clear of your career path from the starting.

If I wanted to prepare for the government services, I would’ve started on my own as soon as I realised my interest in that field. But no, I respect the four years of my Bachelor’s degree. I want to use the skills ( 4 years college + 2 years Kota ) to build my venture.

I spent two years of sleepless nights in Kota to get to my dream college. I am glad I graduated without any extensive backlogs. I was on the verge to stay in the college for one more year. But, I worked hard in the last year to make sure that didn’t happen.

Respect the dedicated career efforts

How can I disregard the entire six years of struggle and knowledge by applying in an entirely different direction? I have developed the momentum to channel my energy in the technical field.

I am a science guy. One of my dreams is to become a neuroscientist. I’ve already started reading books about brain science.

If I wanted to prepare for UPSC by heart, I would’ve had this in my mind from the starting itself.

Even some of my friends are preparing for UPSC, but they realised their interest way before graduating. And I am happy for them because they are doing with full interest.

They started studying from the sophomore year itself! Now, that is the intense dedication level if a person is genuinely interested not because of the family pressure, but because of innate fire.

A career decision is a choice to be made, not a fate to regret later.

UPSC isn’t the dream of every Indian youngster. I know some of my friends who are preparing because of family pressure. They will eventually regret their entire life if they don’t speak up to their parents about their career path.

Come on, folks! You have a 23-year old brain which is high on energy and reasoning, tell your parents if they are forcing you. Convince them in a way they would appreciate. GO AND PREPARE FOR YOUR DREAM CAREER. Life is better when you fight for your dreams!

See, all the above career paths are options. They are not the fate of every youth. Otherwise, my entire generation would be going in the same direction, right?

The supportive argument parents give.

My dad says to crack IAS exam and serve the nation. But, I am working for an even more significant cause. I want to become a writer and change the world with the power of words.

And also for me to make a change in the administrative system of India, I need to be in a position where I can make an impact on the national scale. Here is why I am never applying to government services in my life ( the opinion is from the personal experience after agreeing with a lot of people, still not the entire youth right now ):

Let’s say I work hard and crack the IAS exam. The rest of the process completes, and I am working at my job, Now I will be bombarded with requests from authorities, politicians, my seniors, subordinates, public, etc.

There’ll be so many responsibilities, and so many people to answer that adhering to one decision will invite a lot of backlash from one of the government officials ( or even a group ). Some of them even make compromises in their work just to eat more money. That’s is the last thing I want: to be stopped when doing the right thing. There’ll be so much unreasonable pressure not worth handling.

And also people aren’t patient when listening to advice. They think they are always right ( that’s ego ) and not even open to what you have to say.

The biggest over-stressed reason is financial security.

Some of the reasons why most of the Indian parents want their child to crack government services exams are following (and I don’t blame the parents for wishing the best life for children):

  • have job security for life
  • enjoy many subsidies in lifetime
  • earn a pension after retiring

Here is the blind idea that my dad has: YOU STOP EARNING AFTER RETIRING FROM A PRIVATE JOB.

Welcome to the new world, dad! Where you can create multiple income streams from just a single talent without compromising much on your schedule. See I am doing it myself! I just received my first paycheck for my writing gig! Isn’t it cool?

Benefits of private-sector job don’t vanish after retirement.

What I mean is even in private sector jobs, if you’re aware of the post-retirement plan, you will manage your job-life in such a way that you earn money even after you’ve retired.

One of the ways is by becoming a mentor. When you become a mentor (or advisor) in your field of interest after gaining years of experience, your time becomes so valuable that you are paid a lot of money for just giving your expert advice. You become a valuable asset to the company.

Secondly, multiple sources of income is a thing which did not exist in my father’s time because of the lack of the internet. Even if it does exist now, he is not seeing anyone doing it, so how will he trust my method? If he doesn’t see it, it is not like it doesn’t exist. He just needs to expand his view horizon and see a broader angle of what is happening in the world!

Final words

My aim is not to show why my dad is wrong in asking me for IAS preparation. He can give his opinion. But after raising me strictly and freeing me in my teenage years, he knows one thing — I will listen to everything he has to say, but I’ll finally make an informed decision to which both my heart and mind agree.

Rest assured, government services are no-doubt a service to the nation and a way to fix the administration as we see right now.

But what if I am working for a more significant cause called HUMANITY? What if I am serving the whole world? What if I want to become a writer and challenge the entire belief system and false ideologies that is eating our society. Isn’t that important too?

It is a moment of thought for all the parents who force their child ( I’ve seen some myself, my elder brother was a victim ) to prepare for government services exams without listening to what the child wants. By forcing your kid, you are killing their creativity — the creativity which makes great scientists and business magnates.

See, every Indian youngster can start his own business and live their dream life if they receive the initial family support! Sometimes it takes longer to gain trust, but the wait is worth it!

This blog belongs to a series of posts I am publishing on a daily streak. Target-1 was 21 days. Target-2 was 100 days. Target-3 is 150 days. Today is day 108. Here is the first blog that started the streak.

Thank You for reading! See you tomorrow.

~ S.



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Sanjeev Yadav

Sanjeev Yadav

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