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Choosing Not To Have Kids Is Okay

If you don’t want to become a mother, that’s okay.

Many females don’t want to become mothers after marriage. They feel okay about not having kids. But people repeatedly make them feel bad by telling them it’s wrong to not have kids. They say, “You will regret your decision and change your mind later.” I think, first of all, no one (including relatives, family, and friends) should give suggestions or opinions until the other person asks them. And we should let a female decide by herself whether she wants a child or not. We should keep our mouths shut and let her live as she prefers.

People warn females that they will die lonely if they will not have kids. Why don’t we admit the fact that a female can be courageous enough to live alone? Just because a female doesn’t become a mother doesn’t mean she is less than females who become mothers. The world should be okay with females who don’t want to have kids. Instead of making a female feel terrified by her decisions, we should appreciate her that she is taking decisions by herself. Every female has the right to not have kids. And no one should have any problem with that.

The world has made females’ lives so difficult by trying to control their personal decisions. We should stop imposing our views on females and how they should live. The choice to have kids should only belong to the female herself. Everyone else should just accept it and if someone cannot accept it, it doesn’t give them permission to convince a female that her decision to not have kids is bad. People must learn to stay within their limits and avoid interfering in others’ lives.



The Females Times is dedicated to sharing ideas that address the real-life issues and experiences of females.

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Hassan Siddiqui

Hassan is a heartfelt thinker who believes in the power of the written word to inspire action and enlighten our lives. He is the author of Twenty Bright Paths.