Does it matter WHY my son is gay?

Why are people left-handed? My oldest son is left-handed, which technically could be considered “abnormal”, right? I mean, it’s not “of the norm”. Guess how many people have asked me at what age I realized he was left-handed. Guess how many people have asked him if he was born left-handed or chose to be left-handed. Guess how many people have suggested I talk him into using his right hand even if it doesn’t feel natural to him.

Why are people gay? Does the reason matter? Some people want proof people are born gay. Is it because scientific proof would make people more caring and compassionate? Would those people then vote differently on anti-discrimination laws? Would those people have more compassion about same-sex marriage? Why is there a debate on whether people are born gay or choose to be gay? Why do we have documentaries like “The Third Way” that want to suggest gay people must have a history of abuse? (I’m not a fan of that documentary, by the way, but that’s a blog for another day)

Is my son gay because I carry a gay gene? Is he gay because of a hormonal imbalance during my pregnancy? Is it chromosomal? I told my son, Aaron, he’s gay because I ate Skittles throughout my pregnancy. Maybe I should start telling people that.

My son is gay. The reason why he’s gay would not change anything for me and it shouldn’t for you either.