My Star Sign is Lighthouse

Why others may applaud you, while you feel insecure.

Floris Koot
Aug 23, 2017 · 5 min read

It’s not for nothing a lighthouse adorns this blog.

Over and over in my life have dreams made huge differences. They have changed perspectives, announced future scopes and possibilities, showed essences and even have healed me better than therapy. One essential essential life lesson, is one I often relate to others, as it’s something that’s hard to get and accept: you’ll rarely enjoy your gift as others do.

The Light House Dream

It took some years for the deeper lesson to sink in: I just have to be me.

Note: perhaps interesting to compare this story with my own history.

The Lesson: Your gift is for others to enjoy.

Being (in) a lighthouse is different from being guided by it.

So, whether the dream was true or not, I am a light house. As a light house I am in my own body keeping the light burning and hanging around being there. That’s what a light house does. It shines. It’s up to the ships at sea, to steer by it. I can’t enjoy my own light as the crew of these ships do. I may always feel I am doing too little, getting nowhere and that is just being what it means to be a lighthouse. I just need to shine.

What does this mean for you?

We can only accept and trust that our deepest gift is shown in what others others perceive as what they receive, grow, see because of it.

This strange situation cannot be overcome, it can only be professionally accepted and taken. Rather than crying about it, we can take our struggle as calm professionals. The pain cannot be solved, we can only trust that others will benefit from it, by keeping on working on it. And when they express joy, we should gracefully accept it, for that is the reward for you being the gift you are.

NOTE: When you are bullied or people deny you have a gift or talent, don’t you ever believe it. They may be jealous. They may feel threatened. They may feel you are beyond their understanding. Your parents may wish your gift was better suited for a well paying job, or lack the gift to see how it could be. The struggle to find your gift may take years. You may have to find your audience. You may have to seek long before you find, to find that the seeking was the gift. You may discover having been bullied has become the gift and that you know how to help others deal with the pain. We all become experts at what we struggle(d) with. ;)

Comment of the Sage: “Of course you can’t enjoy your gift. You give it away. That’s the whole point.”

Comment of the Fool: “I love giving. It’s only others don’t seem to like my brilliant poems and tricks. They consider my genius silly.”

Comment of the Sage: “Your gift isn’t what you consciously give, or think it to be. Haven’t you been listening. It’s what others perceive it is.”

Comment of the Fool: “Darn it. You mean them laughing about me is my gift!? Can I please have another one?”

The Gentle Revolution

Towards a revolution we all want to dance in, for a flourishing planet.

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Floris Koot

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Play Engineer. Social Inventor. Gentle Revolutionary. I always seek new possibilities and increase of love, wisdom and play in the world.

The Gentle Revolution

Towards a revolution we all want to dance in, for a flourishing planet.

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