Imperfect Is The New Red

Perfection versus imperfection:

Laura Annabelle
Aug 23, 2017 · 6 min read

Perfection is a world or place where everyone and everything is perfect down to the smallest detail. And every citizen of our society has been formed and part of this act. Which as damaged and made more problems than solutions in our world to create long-lasting peace. To me, I believe that the way to achieve or work towards the right method towards world peace is to work on ourselves.

To improve, strengthen and maximize ourselves and our lives in so many ways we don’t know until we get there. Perfection is overrated. The best example of what perfection looks like is Barbie and Ken dolls. They are the “perfect” example to represent as perfection. Kids play with these toys and eventually believe as they grow up that they must be this kind of “perfect” to fit in with the rest of society. To be accepted and validated by them to be happy.

Because if we don’t, everyone expresses their emotions of hate, and others that lead to chaos, war and other problems. Eventually leads to physical actions and violence. Which in all these cases here, I’m one of those who believes that violence is not something to resort to nor retaliate to when things get out of control.

Here’s my portion of this experiment on the “Barbie Perfection”. I tried it, didn’t get the success anyone would expect and that hurt which made me feel worthless and like a complete failure that I couldn’t be what society wanted me to be. And I continued to beat myself up mentally because it felt like it was near the end of the world for the fact that I didn’t achieve the perfect identity that society expected from me. I felt like I let them down not in the way anyone would feel when they let down their partner, friends, family or other acquaintances. But because we feel this way, we feel in a level of letting ourselves down too. At these moments, we allow it to take away our self worth.

It’s within our control, choice and awareness to make the right choice to follow this lyric from Justin Bieber’s song, Love Yourself: “you told me that you hated my friends. But the problem was with you and not them.” This lyric teaches us that even no matter whether someone chooses to stop taking away your self worth, it’s you that allows that to happen and impact you. So really here it’s your choice to stop letting their words impact you and focus on yourself. Believe me, it may be hard and yet challenging enough, but its so worthwhile in the long run.


To me, I believe that it’s way overrated. You know how in Josie & The Pussycats (movie) throughout the film, has a few girls formed as a group who say orange is the new red… well you may get confused a bit as to how that relates to what I’m about to say about my belief of perfection.

For me, I believe that imperfection is the new perfect. How also crazy is the new black when it comes to mental illness. But anyway, back on topic; for so many years of my life, I’ve struggled to strive/achieve absolute perfection and that lead to little to no success. It didn’t get me anywhere all that good to what anyone would expect or want. But as time continued to pass, it eventually occurred to me that perfection is rather to say impossible. Because human beings are meant to be imperfect, therefore because also no one can be that perfect all the time with everything and every area of their life.

So needless to say, I’ve been working on striving for more imperfection and gradually I achieve with some success or more and in which this fact is more important than any other facts. The fact that stands in any situation is that we made it to where we wanted/intended to be in the end result. Yeah we have been through a lot for a human being but that doesn’t out way all the good that’s part of our life and the greater good to come in our future!

So before I end this for today (Tuesday August 22nd, 2017), I would like to also add here that perfection has been something that my parents appear to state enough that they also believe that no human being is perfect yet they still seem to expect many things they expect of me to be perfect. The the solution here to that is to practice mindfulness to help focus on the present moment enough to make sure you are not only making sense, aware of your surroundings but also taking the time to analyze and think long and hard before speaking, which then are able to make wise and yet emotionally intelligent thinking.

When destiny calls you, you must be strong. I may not be with you, but you got to hold on, they’ll see in time. – Phil Collins

And I certainly know and believe that I am destined to pursue a second career in psychology with my advocacy and passion and/purpose for mental health and psychology. I’ve come to this conclusion since it became aware to me little over a year that lead me to the belief of following psychology as a second career. Even though I hadn’t yet finished and graduated from my office administration, general program at Conestoga College, I knew that would be the next thing for me. Which to add to this subtopic, has been some amount of struggle due to the stigma around mental illness and most likely the fact of so many people going into psychology and even also not many opportunities available once graduated. But to me, I believe this quote represents my answer and solution to this problem.

The best way to predict the future is to create it!

To also cover a short subtopic here; I would like to talk about society. Society? Yes, society. Society expects us to follow and meet their expectations and standards just so we can get their validation/acceptance from them. But another source as stated to be ourselves, yet in the end result, we get judged anyway. So what’s the truth, what’s the right choice to follow? Well the right choice is to follow your heart, not that voice that society appears to have control over, mostly. Listen to your heart, and I hope that leads you to making the choice of being your most yet authentic self to the best of your ability (the best version of you) and to embrace all that you are, flaws and all.

Society has a lot they can say and they have said them all to us and that has impacted us negatively enough with enough control. But deep down, we know we’ve always had the power to take back the power and control to be whoever we wanna be that we feel more comfortable in our own skin and to only change anything that we want just for our own need or belief. And not to gain someone else’s validation or acceptance. And to also achieve and conquer anything in life that we want to because the fact that only matters is that it makes us happy. And that matters more than anyone may even know until they try and make the commitment all the way.

Yes, society has their right to say what they want but we have our right to say whatever we want yet still have enough self control to make the right choices for ourselves to protect our own happiness. What we think about ourselves matters more than what others think about us. Because the only responsibility we have is ourself and ourself only. No one else is our responsibility. We can only inspire change, and that’s it, we cannot demand it in any way. If you want change, inspire it only.

The rest has to come from others. They have to do their part and take the inspiration they were given by others and start following them. It has to be from their own initiation to make new changes in their lives.

Why can’t they understand the way we feel. They just don’t trust what they can’t explain. I know we’re different, but deep inside us, we’re not that different at all. – Phil Collins

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Laura Annabelle

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I'm just someone who believes that she is extra-ordinary, is trying to figure out her life while living with many mental illnesses! #staystrong

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