Are you in a healthy relationship?
Growing up is tough. The millennials are the most confused lot of them all. There are moments in life which hold us back making us confused and helpless. Let’s suppose you meet a potential investor for your startup and want them to really get involved in the project. Yet you have not heard from them. Maybe you want to take your romantic relationship to the next level but your girl does not show any signs. You know you want it desperately but sense that the other party does not feel the same.
Much of this makes us analyze the events and creates a lot of self-doubts. We are unknowingly pushed into the dark spot. A dark spot is a place where you want something so badly to happen but the other party does not feel the same way. There are many solutions to come out of the dark spot and revive that relationship. According to me, once you are trapped in that dark spot where both the parties aren’t on the same page, then its best not to revive it. It’s broken and what is broken can be stuck together. Yet it still carries the scar.
Staying in the dark spot leads to many complications. People start the blame game. They are frustrated and unhappy. Their expectations go unnoticed and cause a lot of emotional drama.
Why would you want to be with someone when they don’t feel the same? It’s best it is broken. If they are not impressed with your work or the way you are right now, what makes you think they will like you in the future? Why would you want to convince them so much and make them be a part of your journey? You don’t need to be treated this way. You don’t have to convince someone to be in your life.
When both the parties are sure about proceeding, you know you are in the right spot. That is the sign of a healthy relationship. When you feel like you are not very sure about continuing with it, you know you have entered the dark spot. When you can’t say yes to it, you might as well say no to it. Your job or your romantic life whatever it might be, both of you should be absolutely sure about it. Otherwise, it’s just going to lead to a lot of emotional drama.
Next time, whenever you feel you are messed up, just try answering this question ‘Do I need this or not’. If your answer is yes, go for it and if you receive a no move on because it’s not worth it.
