Why Are Emotional Affairs so Destructive? There Isn’t an App for That
A woman texts her personal trainer asking him to go to the movies on a Friday night when her husband is out of town.
A man has a “friendship” with a woman — mostly through continuous texting — he met at work but neglected to mention his texting buddy to his spouse and their daily check-ins.
Another woman texts her “friend” at 6:00 am to make plans to meet at the gym later for one on one basketball. Her message is the first thing her “friend” sees when he wakes before he has a chance to say good morning to his wife.
There is no sex or physical contact between these “friends.”
Yet, their friendship excludes their respective partners at their SO’s expense. This is as destructive to the relationship as a one-off sexual encounter and probably more so.
In our connected world, the possibilities for a tryst are endless.
You no longer even need to leave your home to stray. You can actually have an affair while lying next to your partner. — The State of Affairs, Esther Perel
