Nine Steps for Forgiving Someone Who Hurt You
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Step 1: Stop Blaming Others for Your Pain
Someone may have hurt you, but they cannot make you feel anger or sadness. You choose how to process your emotional state. When you’re tempted to point the finger, remember other people have no control over your feelings just as you can’t control who they love.
Step 2: Take Responsibility for Your Part
When life takes an undesirable turn, it’s easy to say ‘It’s not my fault,’ but we choose the rough patches that come into our lives in order to grow. Ask yourself, why you wanted this to happen and focus on the many ways you played a part in creating your reality.
Step 3: Let It Go
Listen with an open heart when someone shares their opinions, even if you don’t want to hear them. Surrender your compulsion to try to change their mind or ask them to give things another try. As Lao-Tzu says:
When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
Step 4: Convince Yourself to Move On
Life will have painful moments in which people hurt you. Maybe the hurtful act was an…
