Men Don’t Cheat for Someone Better; They Cheat for Something New

Did Her Husband Leave Her Because of Her Smell?

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When I was young, we visited our ancestral home in India, which was undergoing renovations at the time. I remember hearing a loud argument one day between the male and female workers.

My mother wouldn’t tell me what had happened, but I later overheard the adults discussing it.

I learned that one of the male workers had started a relationship with a woman on-site and refused to return to his wife and kids, claiming his wife “smelled.”

He complained that his wife had let go of herself after childbirth. She wouldn’t bathe or change her clothes, and she showed no interest in the marital bed.

In hindsight, I wondered if he had ever communicated his frustrations to his wife instead of cheating on her.

Recently, a friend of mine went to a different extreme when she said that if her husband ever cheated on him, she would consider it a shortcoming on her part.

I don’t think she fully understands the implications of what she’s saying here. Blaming yourself for someone else’s actions is a classic victim’s mindset. It is almost as if you’re handing them a permission slip to cheat — “Oops, I burnt the toast. Go ahead…