People also ask … about marriage
Google tells on those that are wondering about getting married. Here are the real answers.
Is it absolutely necessary to get married?
No.
Is it OK to not get married ever?
Of course.
Why should you get married?
You shouldn’t. Unless you believe your life will be lacking unless you are married to your betrothed. If anything less, Do. Not. Get. Married.
Is it a must for someone to get married?
Not in this century.
And now, here comes all the God stuff:
Your relationship with your God is your business, so I (uncharacteristically) have no opinion on whether or not your faith or religious culture should compel or impel you to marry. If you are devout, then your spiritual guides can lead the way. Please keep your own agency.
However, if not devout, then let’s be clear that marriage is a contract. It can and is often made between parties that do not remotely fit nor do they aspire to fit into the Christian parameters alluded to above in Google’s “people also ask” rollout. You and your spouse(s) do you. Your family is how you define it. The real God will love you just the same.
Marriage is legally binding, with immense consequences and responsibilities. It is also a difficult journey even in the best of circumstances. It is filled with joy and heartache. It is at the very least a metaphysical bond. At its best, a spiritual bond. Emphasis on “bond.”
No incest, though. I think we can all agree on that. Outside of Mississippi.
Aha. Now we’re getting to the sex talk.
How many wives did Jesus have?
Who cares? His business is his business.
What are the three biblical reasons for divorce?
Who cares? If you are best served by a divorce, then you need a divorce. You only get one life. But, again, if you’re devout, then you signed up for those rules. You decide if you’re still in.
Is a sexless marriage biblical grounds for divorce?
Again, you decide if that kind of thinking rules your thought process. Do you need a belief system to tell yourself that your marriage is or is not working?
Can God heal a sexless marriage?
No idea. I hope so. That would be very helpful for some. If not on the God train, you may want to try an open and vulnerable series of conversations with your partner, before diving straight for God’s intervention.
When should you walk away from a sexless marriage?
Tough one. There is nothing wrong with seeking spiritual guidance on this. Marriage, of course, is so much more than sex. Intimacy is present in a functioning marriage in myriad ways. Those can be celebrated and appreciated even if nookie no good.
And good on ya for your bravery and proactiveness. Other resources are also valuable: therapists, friends, counselors, random people on the street you feel like dumping on, online forums (careful!), like-minded groups, the great wide-open nature, and more.
Can I divorce my wife for lack of intimacy?
Sure, pal. You can divorce your wife for liking hockey, if you want.
Snark aside, there are legal provisions for this depending on where you live. I’m no lawyer, but as noted above, marriage is a legal contract, in addition to a covenant between persons who presumably have good intentions toward each other. Your obligation is to make it work and then you are obligated to continue to try to make it work.
How you define “lack of intimacy” may not be how others define it or more to the point, how it is legally defined where you live (because you made a legal agreement). If you are married, you brought the courtroom into your home, whether you meant to or not. Proceed with that knowledge.
The questions on Google keep coming, and they’re not the happy, easy kind. They’re all about justifying divorce, bad marriages, neglect and dissatisfied partners. Take that for what it is: A major hint.
