When you are the poodle in a room full of ‘gators
Do you back out slowly or do you stay and fight, knowing you will be eaten in the end?
What do you do when you find yourself in a situation where you are the odd man out in a face-to-face conversation/online discussion? You’re outnumbered and you know it. It’s 4–1 or 8–1 or 10–1, and it’s in their favor. You’re the “1” in the equation. Do you stay and fight, knowing, as outnumbered as you are, that you will be figuratively eaten by the majority, or do you back out quietly, hoping nobody notices that you are the lone poodle in a room full of ‘gators? My answer, quite simply, is, “That depends.”
Yes, I know that probably isn’t what you were hoping to see, here, but it’s my story and I’m sticking to it. A wise person once told me to pick my battles, and that is what I do.
If the discussion is about politics, then I am more than likely going to be the one silently leaving the room. My parents tried to instill in me, a very long time ago, that there are certain things one doesn’t publicly discuss; politics, religion and sex. And we all know I am no Candace Owens. Or maybe “we” don’t, but “I” sure do.
People are very passionate about their political views, and I absolutely respect that. As I’ve mentioned in more than one of my articles, I lean toward the middle, and with that being said, I try to stay out of political discussions, simply because I have a hard time choosing sides, given I see correctness (in my point-of-view) as well as things I really disagree with on both sides.
Political arguments are those that nobody will really win. These are opinion-based discussions, and not worth sacrificing myself for in person, or on the Internet. Life is hard. Why make it harder by trying to change the minds of people who stand as firm in their beliefs as you do?
On the other side of the coin? I will talk race, child abuse, spouse/significant other abuse, parental responsibility, and unwanted sexual advances until I am blue in the face. I don’t care, at that point, if I am the only poodle in the room. Right is right and wrong is wrong. I will argue on the side of right until the ‘gators spit out my little poodle bones. (Do poodle bones in ‘gators cause the same gastric upset as chicken bones in dogs?)
Because I have all that energy that I could have wasted talking politics, I can then apply it to the subjects that I am passionate about.
So. What do you do? Are you the poodle or the ‘gator? Do you stay and fight during those times when you’re the poodle, or do you devour the poor dog in the room when you’re the ‘gator?
I’d be interested in hearing both sides of this!
Julie Cusimano Wall is the author of Random Musings From a Type-A Workaholic, a contributor at “The Ascent,” Central Transport Supervisor at a local hospital, Neither Left- nor Right-Leaning, tender-hearted and an extremely outspoken advocate for people that don’t get to experience privilege.