To Mom, Or Not To Mom

The leap from not-mom to mom is a terrifying one for some of us. But I am glad I made it.

One of life’s great moments of truth.

Throughout my teens and twenties, I was convinced I would never have children. For lots of reasons; the primary one being that I just had no interest. No desire. And I knew what desire felt like. I had very strong desires in the realms of important things like jobs, boyfriends, travel, and cats. The thought of kittens, specific or…




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Solana Joy

Solana Joy

Writer. Rambler. Mother. Creature. Alaskan. Expat.

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