First Impressions

It can be very hard breaking free from the way you come across early on in a relationship

Martin Vidal
The Honest Perspective
6 min readNov 11, 2024

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Rejection always hurts, but what’s maddening is when you feel like they didn’t reject the real you, but just the way you happened to come across one day.

I once met a woman at a restaurant who I was completely enthralled by, and we made plans to go out together. The day that we were supposed to meet, she told me she had to cancel, so I went out with my buddy to a bar instead, and we spent the afternoon throwing back some beers. Then, she ended up being able to make it after all, and as I was impatient to see her, I decided to try to stick to the plans we had originally made.

I hadn’t felt too intoxicated before agreeing to meet, but something about the rush of nerves that come with that first date had my head all abuzz when the time actually came. I showed up and made a fool of myself. I couldn’t remember things, blabbed a bunch, and generally acted, well, drunk.

I attempted to clear things up by apologizing afterwards and explaining how it had happened, but it seemed the more I said that the worse I made the situation. It was completely irreconcilable. In the end, I was left with nothing but embarrassing memories that’ll probably haunt me in some small way for as long as I live.

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