How to Let Go of the Need to Be Needed by Learning to See and Accept Yourself
The simple realization that became a gamechanger.
The need to be seen, heard, and valued. Isn’t that the core motivator for most of the things we do?
It seems as though we can run ourselves into the ground quite happily as long as it is benefiting someone else. So often I hear people around me bemoaning their lack of time to spend on the things they claim they love, and I wonder to myself, perhaps they love being appreciated by others more?
It was certainly that way for me.
For years I honed my organizational skills to perfection by managing to juggle faster and faster, so I could do more and more for others. If I could make myself indispensable then I would be valued, appreciated, and ultimately loved. I wanted to be seen through rose-tinted glasses that would soften any hard edges I have and make me into whatever was needed. Rather than risk saying no and finding that perhaps I wasn’t enough to hold their attention.
I took on tasks that I didn’t have time for and offered assistance to those that didn’t need my help but would gladly take it. All to constantly renew my place in their favor. The archetype of the martyr taken to the final step. I somehow didn’t see the…
