3 Everyday Habits That Will Stop People From Being Envious of Your Accomplishments
Don’t you find it hard not to flex? You’ve put in so many hours into your work until you eventually achieve your goals. So you posted that photo of award or that gathering with your boss on your social media accounts just to express to others of how grateful you feel and how happy you are that your hard work has paid off.
But to your surprise, you often get comments that are of toxic nature — overt flattery, fake praises, mean comments etc. Those reactions are from envy. Envy occurs when people not only disliked what you have but wished that it would be stripped away from you.
We all need to flex sometimes, it’s in our nature to want to be appreciated. The following habits will allow you to flex safely with minimal risk of envy attack from anyone you know.
You Focus On The Process
When you are posting your work and achievements on IG story, for instance, give more emphasise on the process. You’re sharing with your followings the bitterness of the struggle. Not only the sweetness of the victory.
You need to emphasise on the element of luck that result in your success. This will not only make people more drawn to you because of your honesty, but it makes you more grateful for the privileges you have.
“Success is the result of what sociologists like to call ‘accumulative advantage’”
— Malcolm Gladwell
In essence, your flex is not in the form of telling people how great you are. Rather you are empowering people to hustle together and to be grateful for what they have.
Visit Tom Bilyeu’s IG and look at the way he flexes. He’s incredibly rich, that’s no doubt. But he focuses mainly on sharing the mindset that he developed to get to where him and his wife are.
You Flex With Moderation
One of the secrets of happiness is moderation. A person who is moderate in his affairs will please not only himself but also the people around him.
The reality of life is harsh. Only a few of us will taste success at a certain point in life.
When it’s your turn to taste the sweetness of success, think of the less fortunate of your circles. Just imagine how shattered their morale will be when their life is miserable and there you are flexing on all the good things you have.
I believe that we do need to have a means of expressing our achievements in life. What’s the point of becoming the richest person on earth if you have no way of sharing it with someone?
But flex with moderation. As long as you don’t rub people’s face with your success, then people will not be envious of you.
Be wary of who you choose to flex to. You can use the ‘close friends’ feature on IG to select the followers that can see your story.
For the most part, I only share my achievements and happiness with my fiancé and a few of my housemates.
This allows me to keep listening when people are bragging about their achievements without feeling the need to brag about mine simultaneously.
You Place Attention On Other People
As you become more successful in your career, you will receive more attention than before. People will naturally be more curious to know about you.
But there is nothing more attractive than having an interesting person diverting the attention that she received into someone else — especially to the person she is talking to.
This allows you to engage with people in a more meaningful level. You will be surprised by how much you learn from people, just simply by letting them be the star of the show.
You posted your recent achievement on social media. Later, your colleague came and praise you in a strange tone.
Instead of giving the minute details of your post, you arrange the conversation such that the attention is eventually diverted into your colleague.
Let him do the majority of the talking.
Summing It All Up
As we progress in our career, we become exponentially better at what we do. Our nature as a human pushes us to share our glory and achievements to the world. We all want to be appreciated for our effort.
But in sharing our success, we can’t avoid being envied by our followings. The least we could do is to reduce the possibility of people turning that envy into something hostile.
The 3 habits you can practise to avoid people from being envious of you are:
- You give emphasise on the process, not the result.
- You share your success in moderation, not in excess.
- You place attention on others, not on yourself.
Thank you for reading.