5 Steps To Overcome Your Hesitation and Build Self-Confidence
I think, almost half of the People are not able to use their full potential due to hesitation specially in underdeveloped Countries. It’s one reason is this,
The cultural reason, They come from, You know due to the conditioning, In the country, before the freedom, you were not supposed to ask the questions. They are in a society which gives huge emphasis on conformity, like, teachers call that student is the best who does not ask any question. So, they come from such a society due to which hesitation is ingrained in them, and for them to achieve success in life, we have to remove hesitation.
There Are Five Parts That I am Gonna Discuss :
1. First, We Have To Identify The Factors
You have to identify what things brought you into that state of confidence. What are the contributory factors and how can I bring them into my life again? Removing hesitation is a state of mind. There are certain days when you come to school when you feel all energetic, and you feel good, you are happy, you talk to so many people. There are certain days when you don’t want anyone to talk to you. You, the individual is the same. You haven’t changed. What is changed? The state of mind. The altering of the state of mind changes our behavior. So, we have to identify, what are the things that make me feel better? How do I feel empowered? This is all an internal process.
2. How To Work On Yourself?
How do I work on myself to get back into that state? The second thing that I will recommend is “ Take small steps!” Take small challenges once again. Sometimes what happens is, we commit a small mistake which results in a negative outcome. Let’s say, one of you participated in a function in which you had to speak something. Or you spoke something wrong, people laughed and made fun of you. They made fun of you and from that, a nickname was made on it. Other students started teasing you. Done? But you must learn to detach from that incident. One happening does not define you. The cells of the human body regenerate. Do you know this? Our nails, after some weeks, they are brand new. Our hair, they shed and they are brand new. The cells of skin shed and new skin appears on the human body. The process is slow at the microscopic level, we are not able to see it. Our body is regenerating itself. Why not the mind? Why we take that imprint on our mind and continue defining ourselves with that incident that happened two years ago. So, why do you have to, meditation is a powerful powerful tool. Sit in meditation. And for me, meditation is nothing but just closing your eyes and focusing on your breathing.
And take anyone empowering sentence. Whatever religion you are from, whatever God you worship. Anyone empowering sentence, one sentence can change your life. Find that one sentence and repeat it ten times in your mind, and then allow it to be a part of your subconscious process, and take small challenges once again. Volunteer again! Try it again! Don’t quit the thing in which you had a bad experience. Failure is only when you quit when you stop trying. Until you are trying you are at WIP.
Here have a look at Urdu POETRY if you understand
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Do you know what WIP is? Work in Progress! and don’t be ashamed to be a WIP. So what, who was born perfect? Nobody is born perfect! Problem is that most of the people whom we see have already reached that level by the time they become famous. We don’t see the background work. We see the outcome. They say this person is talented. He is naturally gifted. I can never do what he can do. We don’t see the process, the hard work, the sacrifices. Once you see the process, do you know what will happen? You will have an aha moment! If he can do, then I can also do. If you understand the process behind becoming something, You identify that process, and you go continue walking on that road, your results cannot stay away from you. Hesitation is just fear. What is the hesitation? It is fear. Fear of all the negative outcomes happening in your mind. If someone asks you to come on the stage and talk about something, the first thoughts that are going to cross your minds are all negative. I am gonna fall, I am gonna trip, everybody gonna laughs, Right words will not come in my mind. All negative! Remember this, by default, the mind will think negatively. If you will leave this machine, this most powerful machine in the world, if you will not control it, what is going to happen? It will go towards the negative.
3. Don’t Be Like All Typical Person
Let’s say, a public office which has tiles on the roof, everybody who will come there will look at the tiles on the roof. Let’s say one of the tiles would be missing. And when we look up at the roof, what is the first thing we will see? What is the first thing that will come into our minds? Missing tile! Then what we do, we do generalization. What do we do? Generalization! The country’s situation is like this only. What connection one missing tile has with the rest of the country? We generalize! We take one isolated incident and then generalize it. What will happen then? Then another person like you will come with you. Yes, I know this is the situation of the country, that is why I am going to abroad. A group will come together, this group is very dangerous! You know why? Because all of them think alike, and they will not let any other opinion enter among them. If you go to them and say, “ Our Country is going to be Developed.’ They will say, “ Come, I will make you see the pits on the roads.” Can you see this?! He will convince you. After some time, you will think that maybe I am wrong. He is right. So, which group you belong to?
4. Hesitation Is A Fear So You Have To Overcome This
Hesitation is fear so you have to have the courage to believe in your convictions and thoughts. Have the conviction to believe in yourself and then step forward, and be comfortable with mistakes. Our culture does not encourage mistakes. Our education system does not encourage us to commit mistakes. We penalize mistakes. We see mistakes with an evil eye. We ask for perfection very soon and in very high quantities which is to a robotic. That is why Peoples are like robots working in the big tech firms of the world, and their CEO’s come wearing T-shirts, jeans, and sneakers and they are multi-billionaires. We go there and say, “ Yes Sir!” Why? Because we have been taught.
5. Go Beyond The Lines
They keep persuading you to stay between the lines. Colour between the lines. If it’s a drawing test, they don’t say, “ Child, take this blank paper, take this crayon and draw what you can draw.” No! They say, “ It’s a drawing test. We have made a template for you.” Take this crayon. They have written on the top of the sheet to color red in the red area and green in the green area. If a little bit of color goes out of the picture, then they fail the child. Imagine Leonardo Da Vinci and other big painters. If Van Gogh or Picasso would have been asked to do as directed otherwise you will be failed. You have to stand up after falling over and over again because these stumbles will only teach you how to walk. We have to understand this.
Welcome failure!
Welcome embarrassment!
They give you the chance to correct yourself.
“World is changing and moving forward at the Speed of Light, why not you?”
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