There are times in life where it feels like everything has run its course.
Our job is no longer fulfilling, individual relationships are stagnating, and the daily routine feels uninspired.
The place we live no longer feels like home, and with each passing day, we become more disconnected from it.
Reflect and Decide
These revelations come with making the decision to deeply reflect on the life we choose to live, and analyzing what works for us and what doesn’t.
After coming to conclusions about the choices that got us here, more decisions require us to figure out what to do about our current situations.
Do we accept the way things are, or do we make the necessary decisions to change our lives for what we perceive to be better?
Choose Your Fate
Though both options are viable, I’ve spent most of my life accepting the way things are, and while it worked for many years, it no longer does.
I designed my life around other people while spending time with my passions when I could. Whether it be friends, family, relationship partners, employers — the time has come to make my own decisions, and if those currently in my life cannot accept it, I wish them the best in their future endeavors.
It took a long time to realize that it’s better to choose my fate than to live my life for other people, though there is relief in finally discovering this idea.
Don’t Be Agreeable
My situation is a perfect example of why being agreeable is a bad thing — it removes our autonomy and lets others manipulate our lives as they see fit. Those other people may not even realize they’re manipulative, but it will feel that way to us because we gave up our autonomy to appease them.
That’s not to say we should go out of our way to step on other people’s toes and assert our dominance, but we should always have the strength to meet other people with our needs. If our needs and their needs are incongruent, it’s okay to walk away.
It may be emotionally challenging to decide to walk away, but the respect we’ll have for ourselves will be worth the short-term pain in the long run.
Decide and Conquer
Making big decisions that can fundamentally disrupt our lives can be daunting, but the damage done by refusing to make decisions is worse than any disruption.
Decide to live life on your terms, and conquer it to the best of your ability.