Be Yourself
Coming down to being your best version and authentic self is more challenging than it may seem and more than what it may look like. If you wanna beat the demands, expectations and standards society demands of us, try to stop giving it the power over you.
What you give power to, has power over you.
So think about any one or many characteristics about the person you wanna become or that you need/want to start pursuing and becoming and making baby steps towards achieving your goal. Have your mind focus on what you want and if you get stuck, I would suggest you buy: It Starts With Passion: Do What You Love, Love What You Do by Keith Abraham.
The chapter called: S.M.A.R.T. Goals Don’t Work pages: #59–62. I would without a doubt and believe that the Feeling, Action, Results & Goal is a way better method to achieve your goals instead of the well-known method as labeled above.