Live With Imperfection, Not As Society Dictates

The good life isn’t about chasing perfection. But holding onto what is good! – GoodLife Fitness

For so long I’ve caught myself striving so much for perfect, it ended up turning me into something ugly. I wanted that validation, that acceptance from society after matching the ideal look and everything in between of their demands, expectations and standards. So I worked towards getting as close or reading the end results yet things didn’t make me happy.

Like I said with being all caught up in society’s expectations and standards, I ended up losing sight of the real me. The real me that I was always meant to be one day. I lose sight because I was clouded by my own belief and excessive need to be approved/accepted and validated by society, things got ugly in an interesting perspective.

With how we can so easily get convinced to be someone we’re not just for validation from society. What really matters is what we think about ourselves and how we see ourselves. Never let what people say and how others view you, affect how you see yourself, how you speak to yourself and who you choose to be.

You know those moments where you feel unwanted, unloved, unlovable, worthless; well this is way too common in our society, yet how did this happen and get so bad? Well we all played a part in this issue yet which is part of the mental illness epidemic.

Our society isn’t fully mature for all those who should be acting if they wanna set examples for their kids and others, they are so blind by their own ignorance, they don’t realize they are doing it wrong. If you want to set an example, be the change they wanna see in the world. Lead by example, live by your examples!

Sometimes we don’t even know how to properly love others in the right ways yet don’t know how to properly love ourselves because everything is all mixed and yet messed up. How? We all played a part in this big mess and we aren’t making any progress because we are blinded by our ignorance and the rest of us don’t know how to start towards the goal here.

“Millions of people are suffering: they want to be loved but they don’t know how to love.” ~ Osho

And this goal that we wanna gain in result, we gotta try to find some creative way to work towards some progress. One day, one step, one moment at a time. And know that it may not be easy but it will be worthwhile.

And though this may be challenging and even experience tough love and even unfair moments, but know and remind yourself that no matter how hard, challenging moments you will go through and how that will make you feel about the situations getting better, know that it will be challenging and things will remind you that it will be beneficial and your future self will thank you. But remind yourself that it will be worthwhile!

I know this from my own experiences and I’ve had plenty which I’ve had to remind myself numerous times that regardless of how hopeless I feel towards the situation getting better, I had to keep the amount of hope I had left. Which can be more than challenging enough!

“The best thing you can do for yourself is live a life that’s fulfilling and do all the things that make you happy.” ~ Unknown

When it comes to the life I’ve been dreaming of living for many years since I was young, I’ve been doing all the wrong things for long enough, until I stopped repeating the past. I found that I was doing the opposite of things that make me happy. I was doing things to lead to my belief of my own happiness for the sake of meeting society’s standards and expectations.

I have also found that I wasn’t nearly as honest and authentic with myself. I was lying to myself more than I first realized. And yes though it is something that is very common which I know without a doubt, there’s more proof and probability that things are always possible of getting better.

Looking up, means being positive yet optimistic towards achieving your dreams. And I’m at that point, being optimistic yet stuck at the stage of pushing myself to seize the moment so that I can create the life I want to life! You know the quote: “the best way to predict the future is to create it.”

“When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ~ Paulo Coelho

For so long I’ve always known myself to striving for perfection but that got me into a lot of trouble within myself. And knowing that and all my experience has taught me, I know striving for imperfection is way healthier for my mental health yet my health overall!

And so since I’ve started on this process for about 2 years or more, I’ve gained a lot and I’m way more than willing to put myself out there and create something beautiful with it. And I believe it will be the beginning of something amazing and yet beautiful!

“When I feel lost and can’t make a decision, I just stop and get quiet … I ask myself, how does this feel? What do I want my life to be like? I try not to listen to the shoulds and the coulds, and try to get beyond expectations, peer pressure, or trying to please. (For) I believe all the answers are ultimately within us.” ~ Kim Catrrell

I’ve always known that some things that were and still are part of my life weren’t clear to me and at all within me. I knew something and so at some point in my life, I found myself to discovering for those things and doing what I believed was what I wanted my life to be like. How I wanted to see myself and how I want others to see me.

You know there’s a lot that so many people don’t know. If they were to have kept up to date with my updates and posts here on my Medium, WordPress and yet even Happier; they would’ve known a lot more than what they could ever see from the outside.

There’s more than what meets the eye.

And I can also say that I’m happier living an imperfect life where I’m in control of the things that I rightfully and respectfully have and just being at peace and respect of the things I do not have control over. And also see the beauty in each moment and let each experience teach me something valuable!

So cheers to a new outlook and a new life ahead of me ready for new things and whatever life has coming for me!