How Did We End Up Hurting Each Other So Much?

When our hurts hurt the ones we love

Jocelyn Soriano
Nov 8, 2019 · 8 min read
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Photo by burak kostak from Pexels
Photo by burak kostak from Pexels

Our Deep Thirst for Love

Could it be possible that the one you love is suffering from this wound? Could it be possible that you are suffering from it as well?

Signs of Being Wounded

1. Very low self esteem

2. Fear of being abandoned

3. Unusually high demands of love

4. Pushing away those whom they love the most

Destructive Effects of One’s Wounds

1. Perfectionism in Oneself and in Others

2. Inability/ Unwillingness to Admit One’s Mistakes

3. Black and White Thinking

4. Lack of Object Constancy

5. Controlling Behavior

Isolation

Financial Control

Verbal Abuse

Physical Abuse

6. Inability / Unwillingness to Empathize with Others

7. Lack of Trust

8. Inability to Remember the Good that You Have Done

9. Inability to Observe One’s Personal Limits

10. Unpredictable Moods and Anger

Final Thoughts

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Mend My Broken Heart

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Jocelyn Soriano

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“Currently living in and writing about a real-life love story with Jesus” ❤ Follow my story at https://catholicdiary.substack.com/

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