7 Myths About Happiness That Need To Be Busted
Originally published at lmt-lss.com on February 17, 2016.
It’s high time we change the way we think about happiness.
Happiness is a state we all want to achieve. The meaning of happiness differs from individual to individual, and we all have our own ways of trying to be happy. We often confuse our happiness with things it’s not at all related to, and this gives rise to some common misconceptions.
We think that our happiness merely revolves around things like successful completion of that new project, buying our favorite car or house — the list goes on. We firmly believe that having more money is the only way to lead a happy life, which is untrue. Happiness is not synonymous with having more money.
Here are seven other myths about happiness that need to be busted:
1. Money will make you happy.
This is the biggest of all the other misconceptions that we believe in. Although money helps us lead a comfortable life, it doesn’t guarantee happiness. If money really had the power to control our happiness, no rich person would ever feel sad in their life. Don’t confuse a comfortable life for a happy one. It takes much more to achieve happiness than some bundles of paper.
2. Marrying the right person will make you happy.
Most of us believe that we are destined to be with someone and spend the rest of our lives with them. It may or may not be true, but it sure doesn’t determine your happiness. Even if you marry the right person, you are still the only one responsible for your happiness. Although their behavior can affect you, the decision to be happy lies in your hands; you can’t blame your sadness on your partner.
3. You can’t be happy post-breakup.
Post breakups, people often tend to go in the ultimate low phase of their life. They give up all hopes of being happy and start believing that they’ve lost their only chance at love, which is not true. Although breaking up with someone you’ve been in a committed relationship can be one of the most painful things to go through, it doesn’t mean that you’ll never be happy again. If you’re destined to be with them, they will find a way back to you; if not, there’s someone better waiting for you. Hold on to hope and give love a second chance.
4. Getting your dream job will make you happy.
We often confuse the contentment of finally getting our dream job for our ultimate source of happiness. While it sure is great to finally get something you’ve been striving so hard for, don’t let it determine your happiness. There are plenty of people out there who are still unhappy despite being in their dream company. You have the ultimate power to control your happiness, exercise it well instead of relying on materialistic things to bring you happiness.
5. Your past was the best time of your life.
If you keep believing that your past was the happiest time of your life, and you’ll never be able to re-create happiness; you’ll never be happy ever again. Your thinking plays a significant role in determining how happy or sad you are. If you have a positive outlook towards life, you can find happiness in the smallest of things around, but if you keep thinking about negative things, you will never be happy.
6. One bad news is enough to ruin your happiness for life.
Although some bad news is fully capable of shaking our lives and changing many things around, it doesn’t mean that we can’t be happy ever again. After one unfortunate incident, many of us lose hope and give up on happiness, which is not the right way of handling things. You need to believe that it’s possible to be happy again and look for potential sources of happiness around.
7. You need someone to make you happy.
We all live with this misconception that unless we have someone around, who makes us happy, we can never be happy. Instead of depending on someone to make you happy, you should find ways of being your own source of happiness. No one is going to appear magically to fix your sadness; you need to pull yourself together and do the magic.