How To Mind Your Own Business and Why It’s Good For You!
Have you ever heard someone say something false about you to paint you in a bad light? When they said this false statement about you, they were obviously a little jealous or bored, but that’s because they weren’t minding their own business! People who are busy gossiping or worrying about what others are doing are not self-focused and people who are not self-focused are not growing!
Now! Did you get offended by this false statement they made? If so, then it’s because YOU weren’t minding YOUR own business! If you are self-focused and minding your own business then you won’t have time to worry about what others think. I will admit that I was once very concerned about what people thought of me to the point of it controlling a good amount of my life and you know what? I was MISERABLE!!
Nearing the age of thirty, I’ve grown significantly and It’s all because I learned how to mind my business! Lucky for you, I am more than happy to share some ways you can start minding your own business too!
- Accept people for who they are!
This means don’t waste your time judging other people or trying to change them. Spending your energy and time throwing stones at people isn’t going to help you grow in any type of way. When people judge others, it’s only a way for them to hide behind their flawed truths instead of taking responsibility for their selves. This also means, not trying to fix them or feeling like you are in a place to fix them. When they want to grow then they will do it on their own time, but you need to worry about bettering your life. If someone has a bad perception of you then it’s best not to try to prove them wrong. As long as you know what you are then that’s all that matters!
2. Keep away from people who gossip a lot!
You know who I’m talking about! Those people that can’t resist talking about others. They are everywhere. Your job, school, clubs or church! They often move in packs to feed off each others egos. They are focused on everyone else but themselves resulting in them becoming stagnant. If you hang around these types of people then you are very likely to start doing the same thing — which will hinder your growth.
Not that I’m JUDGING but I’ve observed that the people who gossip the most don’t like themselves or are not where they want to be in life! Every person who has spread a rumor about me or has caused problems for me was not a very happy person. So instead of putting your energy towards trying to bring someone down, use your energy to fix whatever is going on with yourself.
3. Become self-focused!
Get entirely engrossed in your growth! Meaning becoming self-aware and taking responsibility for yourself. But that doesn’t mean listening to that negative voice in your head that only gives you anxiety and makes you second guess yourself. That voice of self-destruction and self-doubt is a liar! Whatever that voice has to say about you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!
Become obsessed with bettering yourself inside and out. Read material that could improve your mentality. Self-reflect by keeping a journal or putting a little time aside to do some meditating. Keep your body healthy by participating in activities like yoga, running or walking. My mind is more clear when I feel healthy and what makes me feel healthy is practicing self-care.
Conclusion
Don’t be a busybody! Minding your business can come with so much peace! Learn to be okay with not knowing everything that’s going on and become in tune with yourself.
